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Question?: Angry Autistic Kids

Thomas asks…

Need help if my three year old sounds autistic?

Hello I have a three year old, that has recently been tested for autism, but came back inconclusive for a number of reasons i.e. When asking me about my sons communication skills, I didn’t know what they meant by Joint attention or gestures ( I know I’m stupid) so I would say ‘no’ that he doesn’t do those things… even though judging by my son’s speech therapist and the psychologist and developmental ped that assessed him could see that he could do those things. So anyway, my son is going to have a second assessment and when they ask me questions, I want to make sure that I get it right. Here are a list of things that my son does.
1. Uses joint attention…. to much intact.. he would look at me..point.. and look at me to show me a thing he’s interested in i.e. this could be images in a book, showing me he’s drawing… showing em something he’s interested in etc etc.
2. My son has a speech delay
3. My son uses a lot natural gestures ( That I HAVE NOT TAUGHT HIM).. so this could be ” brushing his teeth” would be in gestures, using his fingers, showing his teeth and animating with his finger the motion to brush his teeth…..” wash hands” would be the two of his hands clamped together doing the motion of washing his hands…..” upset’ would be shrugging shoulders would be or folding arms. ” open” would be animating different ways with he’s hands to open with an object.
3. Plays toys appropriately and has good pretend/imaginary play skills i.e. flying helicopter or rocket, cooking, feeding baby etc.. although occasionally he would lie down sideways and build he’s blocks ( which is a concern
4. If he does not get what he wants this would go into a tantrum
5. doesn’t seem to understand patience some of the times *sigh*
6.Flaps arms when angry
7. Plays with kids and knows how to share
8.Has no routine issue whatsoever, but remembers the places which I treat him too e.g. Mcdonalds…toy stores and if we walk past these ” special treat stores” wants to go in *sigh again*
9.Toilet trained.. sleep is fine
10. Can be too hyperactive, running around ( which is tiring)
11. Always wants to play with me ( which can be annoying sometimes) this could be him making me want to out on our 3D glasses and him pointing to the mirror so that we can pull faces… our sleeping game, so he would gesture sleep, and I have to fake sleep and he would diliberalty make noise and I’ll have to wake up and tickle him…. also with games too.
12. Self care needs are advanced
13. Really good at imitating
14. Can be shy
15. seems to understand more, even though speech is limited
16. seems to always want my attention…through crying… wanting me to cuddle him… playing
17. Has a good sense of where I am, e.g say like if I am out of his sight, he would always look back to s where I am or where I have gone too.

I think the main thing for me is his tantrums, he may have an allergy too. Also, he is quite shy and does not show his true self to people.. most of the things have mentioned on this list..only me, his speech therapist, family and close friends have seen this side of him, to strangers he doesn’t open up easily which is sad. Anyway, does my list sound like he has autism and what concerns should I bring up to the psychologist?
@Alicia- Thanks for your comment, when actually listing things which my son does, autism sounds less and I am actually thinking that it could be ADHD..OR ADD.. his dad has said this, that it sounds like ADHD not autism. Although, It can be argued that the fact because he is speech delayed, this adds to frustration..if it is ADHD and not autism, I would be worried that it may result for him to take medication.. which I would not result too. I am aware that ADHD cannot be diagnosed under the age of 5.

admin answers:

Autism is the inability to understand other people as being people with their own wants, needs, and emotions. Something that three-year children also tend to be bad at. Like what has been said before, most of what you are describing sounds a lot like a normal three-year old. The speech doesn’t seem to be important, as your son seems to be able to communicate. Most children learn to talk well because baby talk just gets a “What did you say” response from adults, so children learn to enunciate so as to be understood and get what they want from adults. You’re sons gestures sound like he has found a way of getting out of having to talk properly (if you have ever learned a second language, then you would know how difficult this is). I am curious as to what what would happen if you refused to acknowledge his gestures and insist that he talk more to get what he wants.

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Question?: Autism Signs In Children

Ruth asks…

Any tips on potty training kids with autism?

My daughter has autism and will be 3 next month. I really don’t know how to potty train her since she has limited verbal skills and can not tell me when she needs to go!
I have consulted with “experts” but I would like some tips or feedback from parents or caregivers that have been there as well.
MeShell, we are in Texas too! She is starting school next month when she turns 3.

admin answers:

Toileting can be difficult especially if there is a disability present, some children take longer than others to make the transition, so don’t feel disheartened if she does not want to do it yet, just let it go for a week or two and try again.

Start by keeping a record of the times she is has wet and soiled herself (in her diaper/nappy) over a period of a week or two, with any luck you will have a idea of approximate times, if not a pattern she is going. And then try to have her sit on the potty or toilet around these times.

Make sure has a big drink, every time she has a meal, to encourage the need for elimination, usually children will need to go to the toilet within half an hour after a meal, so this would be a good time to have her sit on the toilet/potty, you will have to do this after breakfast, lunch and tea as part of her routine.

Modeling is another way of encouraging children to use the toilet/potty. The idea is for her to see you actually sitting on the toilet, and see whats in the toilet after you have finished, let her flush the toilet, and then wash hands (all of which are part of toileting). If you reluctant to sit on the toilet in front of her, other siblings are usually more than happy to show others how to wee etc. With boys a ping pong ball with a target or an bulls eye painted on it, and then placed into the loo, the boys love seeing it whiz around, it also teaches them to AIM into the toilet not at it.

Be sure you tell its toilet time, before taking her so she becomes familiar with the word, even when you need to go so she knows its something everyone has to do. As she is not verbal you can teach her the sign for toilet, you may like to draw a picture of the toilet and show her every time your take her to the toilet (you can buy picture cards, but it can be expensive, check links below)

But don’t let her sit on the toilet for more than 10 minutes as she will become bored and resist sitting, have a few toys for her play with while sitting (ones that can be washed easily). Saying that NEVER use the toilet or potty as punishment for soiling themselves, as you will find yourself back to square one.

Be mindful of the toilet flushing upsetting her as it can be a bit noisy for some autistic children, also doing pooh can be a bit frightening too, this can be overcome by modeling as above.

If she does do a wee or pooh make a huge fuss, and tell daddy or grandparents how clever she is.

I use a mix of Makaton sign language and compics to communicate with my clients. Boardmarker is really good program but is a bit expensive too, but well worth the money.

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