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Question?: Pdd Autism

Paul asks…

What is Autism exactly-I have an autistic sister?

I would like to understand her situation better. I don’t live with her so when ever I do see her (which is like maybe once every 5 months, if that) she’s a little hard to handle. She’s very hyper. And she’s got more problems other than just autism.

But what is autism exactly? I just want to understand my baby sister more.

admin answers:

Autism is a severe developmental disorder that begins at birth or within the first two-and-a-half years of life. Most autistic children are perfectly normal in appearance, but spend their time engaged in puzzling and disturbing behaviors which are markedly different from those of typical children. Less severe cases may be diagnosed with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) or with Asperger’s Syndrome (these children typically have normal speech, but they have many “autistic” social and behavioral problems).

It used to be thought that autism is just a fate that you accept.The good news is that there are now a wide variety of treatment options which can be very helpful. Some treatments may lead to great improvement, and others may have little or no effect, but a good starting point would be the parent ratings of biomedical interventions, which presents the responses of over 25,000 parents in showing the effectiveness of various interventions on their own child.

ARI’s Diagnostic Checklist, Form E-2, was developed by Dr. Bernard Rimland to diagnose children with Kanner’s syndrome (which is also known as ‘classical autism’). Many parents and professionals have also used the E-2 checklist to assist in the diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder (ASD). You can print out, complete the checklist, and then mail it to ARI for scoring. Our staff will analyze the responses and send you a score along with an interpretation. The checklist is available in 17 different languages. There is no charge for this service.

How Common is it? For many years autism was rare – occurring in just five children per 10,000 live births. However, since the early 1990’s, the rate of autism has increased exponentially around the world with figures as high as 60 per 10,000. Boys outnumber girls four to one. In 2007, the Centers for Disease Control reported that 1 in 150 children is diagnosed with autism.

What is the Outlook? Age at intervention has a direct impact on outcome–typically, the earlier a child is treated, the better the prognosis will be. In recent years there has been a marked increase in the percentage of children who can attend school in a typical classroom and live semi-independently in community settings. However, the majority of autistic persons remain impaired in their ability to communicate and socialize.

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Responding to Difficult Behaviors With a Different Approach to Time Out

All children want to be good and please their caretakers. Young children don’t PLAN to misbehave or fall apart. When a child has an emotional meltdown it signals they are having trouble controlling their emotions, especially when the demands of the environment exceed their current ability to cope. Handling emotional outbursts may seem daunting yet there are many proactive things parents can do to manage and reduce temper tantrums.

When we dissect temper tantrums we often find they result from frustrations that can lead to anger or total loss of control. Anger and frustration are natural emotions, they are neither good nor bad, they simply exist, as do happiness and love. When you enter the world of a child with Autism, you may find that despite some language ability, he or she may have a difficult time making you understand what she or he needs or wants. The other possibility of course is experiencing sensory overload, which needs to be taken into consideration.

Children with an Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) desire to become effective communicators and more self-sufficient but they often lack the skills necessary to do so. Even neuro-typical children feel confused, helpless and lost in our adult world at times. As parents we need to teach our children, instructing them to develop appropriate ways to cope and training them to become self-sufficient. Anger management has to be taught, no one is born with it.

There are many tactics experts suggest parents use when they are faced with difficult behaviors:

• Telling children to stop – while communicating what you want them to do instead.

• Teaching the steps for anger management, including identification of feelings.

• Distraction (age appropriate) – humor, passions, hugs, point to schedule, etc

• Ignoring – no encouragement, leaving the room, etc

• De-escalation – using counting, deep breathing, etc

• Using time-out – sending children to their room.

For the annoying and irritating behaviors that children often exhibit I always encourage parents to use the last one, time-out, as a last resort and learn to use it appropriately. Unfortunately, time-out is often overused and therefore ineffective so it is important to decide what behaviors you want to use it for. Sending kids to time-out for all misbehaviors will dilute its effectiveness and may even create resentment in a child – being ostracized to your room while in turmoil does very little to teach any child how to behave better.

I encourage parents to use time-out ONLY for emotional meltdowns and temper tantrums, and I suggest redefining the entire concept. Throw away the word time-out, call it something else and create a different approach. Here are some suggestions for creating and implementing a new and improved, yet successful alternative to using time-out.

If interested in experimenting with a new form of time-out, first take a step back and reflect: What am I using time-out for? What is our goal? Are we using it to correct behavior or to punish or is there something else at play here? Based on your values, it is important to take some time to get clear on the purpose and the outcome you desire. The correct purpose of time-out should be for a child to learn how to calm down and eventually self-soothe.

Young children who misbehave, get angry and upset enough to have a temper tantrum need to learn self-calming skills BUT not in the heat of the moment. No brain – adult or child, typical or neuro-typical – can take in information and act upon it when in the heat of emotional despair or uncontrollable rage. Trying to reason with or scold a child who is in the midst of a temper tantrum is futile. Instead,

– Consider creating a ‘feel better’ place, a safe place that can replace typical time-out. This could be a beanbag in the kitchen, an arm chair in the living room, a corner of the family room OR the child’s bedroom as long as it is not seen as punitive. Identify such a place for everyone in the family and make sure it is customized to each person’s needs, temperaments and personality. When your child shows signs of breaking down, gently guide her to her designated place and provide her with a means to calm down. This could be cuddling with a blanket or stuffed animal, rocking, listening to soft music or whatever else was determined in advance.

– When you feel your temper about to burst, try role modeling the act of taking a break to feel better. If feeling out of sorts or displaying behaviors that indicate stress, frustration and anger are normalized like this and a solution is presented, it will not only minimize and prevent emotional outbursts over time but it will also provide your child with valuable lessons for coping with life.

– Introducing and role-modeling this new approach will take time and young children will need a lot of direct intervention in the beginning. Presenting it well is crucial to making it work. Explain the new routine using clear and specific language that your child understands best (visuals or social stories when necessary) and giving concrete demonstrations will only help to increase its chance of success. Allowing older children to have input into how it might work best for them will also help as well as giving the new process a positive and unique name.

– It is essential to introduce this new tactic at a time when your child is in good spirits. If your child is slow to process information you may even want to discuss it for a while before you actually implement it. Once you do, they will need to be guided firmly yet gently.

– Be consistent and stick to this method for at least four to six months. They say it takes a minimum of twenty-one repetitions or more for new behaviors to be accepted and become habit. If minor tweaks become obvious make adjustments right away making sure you communicate the change clearly.

Yes, all of this will take time but all good outcomes are worth working for and time is what it takes to change behaviors and make them stick. Taking time is what parenting is all about, if we aren’t willing to invest our time and effort, than our parenting will continue to be difficult.

Connie Hammer, MSW, parent educator, consultant and coach, guides parents of young children recently diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder to uncover abilities and change possibilities. Visit her website http://www.parentcoachingforautism.com/ to get your FREE resources – a parenting e-course, Parenting a Child with Autism – 3 Secrets to Thrive and a weekly parenting tip newsletter, The Spectrum.

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Mothers Day Hints for Men

Mothers Day Hints for Men
Posted on Sunday, May 13 @ 11:38:18 EDT by Social Skills Mother's DayWhy is it so hard for moms to take a break? What can fathers do to help?

First of all, struggling with taking a break from maternal responsibilities is normal. This is hard for the mothers of typical children?who presumably have a little less to be preoccupied about than mothers of children who have autism and other special needs.

So feeling overwhelmed by the enormous responsibilities of motherhood is normal, but when it goes on indefinitely, it?s not healthy for a mother or her family. And fathers tend to begin feeling left out and neglected. While I frequently write about fathers, I spend a good deal of my time as a psychologist listening to mothers. Almost invariably mothers seem to be relieved when they give voice to their struggles?particularly the guilt about not doing enough or missing something they should have done or thought about.

Read Mothers Day Hints for Men

Opening up and connecting about upsetting situations can help. On the other hand, suggesting that a mother do more to take care of herself often makes her feel worse. Listening to mothers in at Alternative Choices, we hear that this can sound like just one more thing to do. Their lists are already too long. And another thing they just aren?t getting right?even more guilt!

One mom even told me, ?My life seems like one long day!?

In contrast, the average overwhelmed father seems to have less difficulty taking a break. On the other hand, he may also have trouble talking about what he cannot fix or take action about. He may shut down out of helplessness and emotional overload that he has no words for. The very same man may love his partner and children passionately; yet he may feel left out, ignored, and powerless.

This reaction offers no outlet for his partner?s feelings.

Still, most fathers admire when the mother of their children reacts like a mother lion with her cub, doing everything possible to raise their child.

So for this Mothers and Day and every day really, here?s a plan for men:

Tell your partner how much you appreciate her and everything she does for yourchildren. Be specific about all the wonderful things she does and how hard she tries. Don?t do something. Don?t make suggestions. Volunteer to just listen to how she feels.Ask what you can do to make her job easier.Gently and persistently keep asking and showing up to do stuff.

This is how to be a good man in your situation. Help her to take a breath, literally and figuratively. Let her know that she is indispensable. No one can do a better job. In the words of Oliver Wendell Holmes, ?The real religion of the world comes from women much more than from men?from mothers most of all, who carry the key of our souls in their bosoms.?

Finally, remember the most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.

This column is by Wrong Planet columnist and clinical psychologist Dr. Robert Naseef. He runs a practice in Philadelphia called Alternative Choices
               
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We Aspergers need overt & explicit advice to do well. Here’s how to practically love your wife: http://manofthehouse.com/ If you are still married (the odds are low), here’s a couple of good books for them: “Connect with your Asperger partner” by Louise Weston “Loving someone with Asperger’s Syndrome” by Cindy Ariel Here’s books for you: “Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships” by Grandin & Barron “The Power of Body Language” by Reiman If looking for a spouse, here’s a good book to give you a fighting chance: “The Five Love Languages” by Chapman
I whole-heartedly support the encouragement to do something nice for our wives on Mother’s day (whenever that day might be, depending on the part of the world one lives in), but my overall enthusiasm for this “column” entry is limited. First of all, for the text to make much sense, I have to assume that we’re talking about stay-at-home wives who spend far more time with their children than their husbands. Second, I strongly disagree with the author on his definition of a father’s most important contribution to his children (“to love their mother”). It is important that I, as a father, love and care for my wife, but even more important is it that I spend much of my time together with my children, teach them new things, etc.. It is important that mothers are not alone with the responsibility to pay attention to the children’s emotional needs, their problems and their successes. Men and women are not equal, and it is surely not by accident that it takes both a man and a woman to make a child. A child benefits from having both parents’ attention. Mothers understand some things that fathers do not, and vice versa.
Re: Mothers Day Hints for Men (Score: 1)
by ThinkTrees Sunday, May 13 @ 20:05:29 EDT
(User Info | Send a Message) “Finally, remember the most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. ” It’s not the only thing a father can do, but it’s the most important. Love is not only sentiment, it is also expression, and it is action — thus propelling a series of constructive behaviours that are supportive, yes, but empowering and deeply rewarding to the father and children as well. Great article. Surprising, and very thoughtful.
I’m in a different kettle of fish. I am a male diagnosed with Aspergers and I am a solo Dad Well at least I get the benefit of both Mothers and Fathers day. Prefer Fathers day though as I don’t really look my best in a dress on Mothers day LOL
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I’m a little disappointed this article says it’s aimed at ‘men,’ and that it’s goal is to help just mothers, when these tips are appropriate for both mothers and fathers. The article also completely ignores that some mothers have women partners. And ‘maternal responsibilities’? I know some partners still segregate the type of household work they do based on traditional gender roles but I was hoping the articles here would be more open-minded… I appreciate the great intentions, but, questionable execution.
I’m not in touch with my mother, or my father, and don’t take very kindly to receiving emails out of the blue from some stranger lecturing me on how I interact with them. Go fuck yourself.
Re: Mothers Day Hints for Men (Score: 1)
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Re: Mothers Day Hints for Men (Score: 1)
by JonnyBoy Thursday, May 17 @ 23:57:34 EDT
(User Info | Send a Message) This really should have been called “Mother’s Day Hints for Husbands”. Not all men are married, you know!

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Mothers Day Hints for Men

Mothers Day Hints for Men
Posted on Sunday, May 13 @ 11:38:18 EDT by Social Skills Mother's DayWhy is it so hard for moms to take a break? What can fathers do to help?

First of all, struggling with taking a break from maternal responsibilities is normal. This is hard for the mothers of typical children?who presumably have a little less to be preoccupied about than mothers of children who have autism and other special needs.

So feeling overwhelmed by the enormous responsibilities of motherhood is normal, but when it goes on indefinitely, it?s not healthy for a mother or her family. And fathers tend to begin feeling left out and neglected. While I frequently write about fathers, I spend a good deal of my time as a psychologist listening to mothers. Almost invariably mothers seem to be relieved when they give voice to their struggles?particularly the guilt about not doing enough or missing something they should have done or thought about.

Read Mothers Day Hints for Men

Opening up and connecting about upsetting situations can help. On the other hand, suggesting that a mother do more to take care of herself often makes her feel worse. Listening to mothers in at Alternative Choices, we hear that this can sound like just one more thing to do. Their lists are already too long. And another thing they just aren?t getting right?even more guilt!

One mom even told me, ?My life seems like one long day!?

In contrast, the average overwhelmed father seems to have less difficulty taking a break. On the other hand, he may also have trouble talking about what he cannot fix or take action about. He may shut down out of helplessness and emotional overload that he has no words for. The very same man may love his partner and children passionately; yet he may feel left out, ignored, and powerless.

This reaction offers no outlet for his partner?s feelings.

Still, most fathers admire when the mother of their children reacts like a mother lion with her cub, doing everything possible to raise their child.

So for this Mothers and Day and every day really, here?s a plan for men:

Tell your partner how much you appreciate her and everything she does for yourchildren. Be specific about all the wonderful things she does and how hard she tries. Don?t do something. Don?t make suggestions. Volunteer to just listen to how she feels.Ask what you can do to make her job easier.Gently and persistently keep asking and showing up to do stuff.

This is how to be a good man in your situation. Help her to take a breath, literally and figuratively. Let her know that she is indispensable. No one can do a better job. In the words of Oliver Wendell Holmes, ?The real religion of the world comes from women much more than from men?from mothers most of all, who carry the key of our souls in their bosoms.?

Finally, remember the most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.

This column is by Wrong Planet columnist and clinical psychologist Dr. Robert Naseef. He runs a practice in Philadelphia called Alternative Choices
               
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We Aspergers need overt & explicit advice to do well. Here’s how to practically love your wife: http://manofthehouse.com/ If you are still married (the odds are low), here’s a couple of good books for them: “Connect with your Asperger partner” by Louise Weston “Loving someone with Asperger’s Syndrome” by Cindy Ariel Here’s books for you: “Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships” by Grandin & Barron “The Power of Body Language” by Reiman If looking for a spouse, here’s a good book to give you a fighting chance: “The Five Love Languages” by Chapman
I whole-heartedly support the encouragement to do something nice for our wives on Mother’s day (whenever that day might be, depending on the part of the world one lives in), but my overall enthusiasm for this “column” entry is limited. First of all, for the text to make much sense, I have to assume that we’re talking about stay-at-home wives who spend far more time with their children than their husbands. Second, I strongly disagree with the author on his definition of a father’s most important contribution to his children (“to love their mother”). It is important that I, as a father, love and care for my wife, but even more important is it that I spend much of my time together with my children, teach them new things, etc.. It is important that mothers are not alone with the responsibility to pay attention to the children’s emotional needs, their problems and their successes. Men and women are not equal, and it is surely not by accident that it takes both a man and a woman to make a child. A child benefits from having both parents’ attention. Mothers understand some things that fathers do not, and vice versa.
Re: Mothers Day Hints for Men (Score: 1)
by ThinkTrees Sunday, May 13 @ 20:05:29 EDT
(User Info | Send a Message) “Finally, remember the most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. ” It’s not the only thing a father can do, but it’s the most important. Love is not only sentiment, it is also expression, and it is action — thus propelling a series of constructive behaviours that are supportive, yes, but empowering and deeply rewarding to the father and children as well. Great article. Surprising, and very thoughtful.
I’m in a different kettle of fish. I am a male diagnosed with Aspergers and I am a solo Dad Well at least I get the benefit of both Mothers and Fathers day. Prefer Fathers day though as I don’t really look my best in a dress on Mothers day LOL
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I’m a little disappointed this article says it’s aimed at ‘men,’ and that it’s goal is to help just mothers, when these tips are appropriate for both mothers and fathers. The article also completely ignores that some mothers have women partners. And ‘maternal responsibilities’? I know some partners still segregate the type of household work they do based on traditional gender roles but I was hoping the articles here would be more open-minded… I appreciate the great intentions, but, questionable execution.
I’m not in touch with my mother, or my father, and don’t take very kindly to receiving emails out of the blue from some stranger lecturing me on how I interact with them. Go fuck yourself.
Re: Mothers Day Hints for Men (Score: 1)
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Re: Mothers Day Hints for Men (Score: 1)
by JonnyBoy Thursday, May 17 @ 23:57:34 EDT
(User Info | Send a Message) This really should have been called “Mother’s Day Hints for Husbands”. Not all men are married, you know!

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Divorce and Autism: Making the Best of an Unfortunate Situation

The myth that families of children with Autism have an 80% divorce rate was proven false by researcher Brian Freedman, PhD, clinical director of the Center for Autism and Related Disorders at the Kennedy Krieger Institute in Baltimore, as this article, Autism Families: High Divorce Rate Is a Myth, states. Despite the fact that parents of a child with an Autism Spectrum Disorder experience more stress, the rates of divorce remain similar to those of parents with neuro-typical children. Unfortunately, that does not mean that parents of special needs children do NOT get divorced.

So what is a parent of a child with Autism to do when they suddenly become an every other weekend dad or mom? The answer is the same I would give any other divorced parent; find a way to co-parent constructively. When couples with children divorce it becomes necessary for them to mindfully redefine their relationship. Remember that there are no ex-parents, only ex-spouses. Despite the fact that the marriage has ended the parenting connection will continue forever.

The best gift any parent can give their child in this situation is to make a conscious effort to redesign their roles, without conflict and negativity. This means:

1. Putting the needs of the children first.

2. Separating parenting issues from personal issues.

3. Establishing new boundaries.

4. Discovering a way to effectively communicate with one another.

This is much easier said than done but here are a few suggestions to keep you on track.

Communicate regularly with your ex about the therapies your child is receiving and find out how you can reinforce them during your time together. Consistency is important for children on the spectrum and keeping schedules and routines as similar as possible between houses will help.

Pay attention to your environment and try to look at it from your child’s perspective. Taking your child’s sensory sensitivities in mind try to create a space for him that will be predictable and comforting in order to make her feel secure in their other home.

Be mindful of how your child handles the transitions when moving from house to house. Coping with a new situation takes time. Keep in mind that it will take her a while to settle in when first arriving from the home of your ex.

Don’t let guilt run the way you parent. Remain in charge. Your children need to know the boundaries and how to be responsible for themselves more than ever. Loving, positive rules create emotional order, which in turn allows character and love to grow.

Create your own family rituals, they make great memories. This can be as simple as having regular family meals with candlelight, making bedtime a predictable routine with storytelling, or creating traditions for holidays and special events.

Remember that love is not about externals. You don’t have to be a Disneyland dad or an overindulgent mom. Spend your time, not your money, on making genuine connections that create secure relationships with your children. This will reduce the need your children may have to search for outside ‘things’ to feel valued and important.

Manage your new home with the same close attention you give your job/career/ business. Remember, in this job, you are the boss and you run the household. Keep in mind how you would rate yourself on a performance evaluation.

Connie Hammer, MSW, parent educator, consultant and coach, guides parents of young children recently diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder to uncover abilities and change possibilities. Visit her website http://www.parentcoachingforautism.com/ to get your FREE resources – a parenting e-course, Parenting a Child with Autism – 3 Secrets to Thrive and a weekly parenting tip newsletter, The Spectrum.

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A Successful Transition to Adulthood for My Child With Autism

All parents worry about their child’s future. Many of us wonder what our children will be like when they grow up. Will they go to college, join the military, find a good job and be financially independent? Will they have healthy relationships and become parents themselves?

Are the concerns of a parent of a child with an Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) any different? Except for some young adults who come back home to live with mom and dad (temporarily one hopes), parents of neuro-typical children don’t usually worry if their child will be able to live independently. Unfortunately, worrying that your child will be able to live an independent life as an adult is a very big concern for parents with children on the Autism spectrum.

How will my child transition to adulthood?

How do I make sure my daughter can manage on her own when she is an adult?

What will happen to my son when I am not around anymore?

These are not the cries of parents whose children have ordinary needs but those of moms and dads whose children have the special needs that come with a diagnosis of an Autism Spectrum Disorder.

Our assignment as parents is to prepare our children for a life of independence, regardless of our child’s level of ability. This is not a job that we can or should postpone. This is a task that should begin early on, like the bank account or college fund some parents are able to set up at birth. But we all know that every child’s independence extends beyond the financial aspect and has more to do with acquiring basic life skills and mastering daily living tasks.

This journey begins with having a positive vision for your child’s future.

What kind of person do you want your son to be as an adult?

What opportunities would you like to make available to your daughter?

Seeing your child as capable of all possibilities is an important mindset to have because what we focus on grows.

Once a dream for your child’s future is drafted in your mind, the next and most important step is to determine how you are going to help your child get from point A to point B as you focus on your child’s unique talents. This is a process that can begin at birth and will be tweaked along the way as your child helps you shape it.

Here are some things parents need to pay attention to when planning and working towards an independent future for their child.

– Start now to expand your child’s social skills. Knowing how to relate to others is a better indicator of success then a person’s IQ according to Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. Social skills groups and social thinking classes are great for children with Autism but never underestimate the power you have as a parent to enhance your child’s ability to socialize appropriately.

– Help your child develop self-advocacy skills. When our children are young we need to be their advocate but as they grow the balance needs to shift into their court as much as possible if they are to achieve and maintain independence. Every day provides numerous opportunities for teaching self-advocacy skills and it begins with encouraging your child to make choices – choices for dressing, meals, play activities, and even choices for which chores to do around the house. Role modeling advocacy skills for your children will also help.

– Educate your child about Autism Spectrum Disorders and where he falls on the continuum. The more informed your child is about her uniqueness, the more empowering it is – especially when done in an empathic manner, always being mindful of where she is developmentally and what she is able to understand. If you start taking baby steps in this direction now your child will grow to be better able to embrace herself as is and access the amazing potential that exists beyond the label that has been given to her.

– Get to know the laws inside and out. If your child receives special education services don’t wait until she is in high school to familiarize yourself with the laws that can empower her. There are three laws that overlap to protect you and your child with an ASD that you need to become familiar with right away: Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA), Section 504 of the Vocational Rehabilitation Act, and the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). You also want to stay informed of the No Child Left Behind Act of 2001, signed into law by President Bush on Jan. 8, 2002, which expands the federal role in education by improving the educational lot of disadvantaged students.

If nothing else, remember to hold on to hope. Don’t judge or make assumptions about your child’s potential to live independently based on other children with Autism. As the saying goes, “Once you have met one child with Autism, you have met ‘one’ child with Autism.” Your child is unique and his journey to adulthood should be customized to his abilities, not his disabilities.

Connie Hammer, MSW, parent educator, consultant and coach, guides parents of young children recently diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder to uncover abilities and change possibilities. Visit her website http://www.parentcoachingforautism.com/ to get your FREE resources – a parenting e-course, Parenting a Child with Autism – 3 Secrets to Thrive and a weekly parenting tip newsletter, The Spectrum.

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Autistic Activities – Does A Child With Autism Need Reflective Activities?

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Reflective activities are drastic among children among Autism. No question what skill level there is a reflective activity more than likely for every child. It may be at times difficult to spinrt out the reflective activity but it is possible. Autistic Activities

Reflective activities are designed to help children think about what happened to them and why. They are designed to show what the child learned. It can be done through a writing activity, a verbal activity, or even an activity showing what happened.

If you have ever seen younger children acting out something that happened during the day, that is a reflective activity. Some children talk and talk and talk. If you listen to what they say many times you will find they are going over what has happened during their day. Autistic Activities

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A child with autism can and needs to do the same thing. Some of our children with autism can speak. The conversation may not be totally clear and may even be single words but it pays to listen. It even pays to talk back about it.

Children with high and low verbal skills can take the opportunity of hearing you repeat and add to what they say. Some children with autism will even begin to repeat what you have cleverly added to the conversation and internalize it. Autistic Activities

The use of reflective activities does have to be more structured for children with autism. Typical children and adults do it naturally without even having a name for it. We may need to lead children with autism to talk about their day. They could even draw about their day as a reflective activity. Don’t let your love ones suffer anymore! Lead them out through Autistic Activities program now!

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Promoting Independence in Aspergers Teenagers

Aspergers teenagers usually need a lot of support before then can develop independence. Many details will need to be taught to your Aspergers teen that will not have to be explained to most typical children. Dealing with money, cleaning up after oneself, doing laundry and other life skills will be needed once your teenager leaves home. Interpersonal skills, like how to talk to service people, shop assistants and others will need to be concretely taught and practiced before your teen goes out on their own.

Teenage years are difficult for most children and being an Aspergers teenager just makes it more difficult. There are many special challenges that Aspergers teenagers face.

Some Aspergers children will be loners, having few friends and focusing on one or more hobbies or preoccupations. This type of child is independent is some ways, but still lacks maturity that is required in day-to-day living. A loner needs to be encouraged to go out and make friends so they are participants in the world, rather than retreating from it. Other parents may not have Aspergers teenagers with isolation problems. Their main issue may be the presence of rituals and obsessions that can interfere with their teenager’s eventual independence. Psychotherapy might work in this kind of situation but there are also medications designed to control ritual behavior. Getting this under control in the teen years will go a long way to help them as adults. Holding down jobs and generally functioning in society is a challenge for obsessive-compulsive adults.

Depression can develop in these years for Aspergers teenagers and they should be watched closely for indications of this. Knowing they don’t fit in and suffering from poor self-esteem can lead to depression. Be proactive about the use of psychotherapy or medications that can control some of the symptoms of depression. This means that as a parent, you need to be aware of excess isolation, dark language, outbursts of anger or even self-mutilation. Help is available and can be useful in resolving some of the conflicts unique to adolescents who have Aspergers Syndrome. As Aspergers teenagers begin to become more independent and functioning out in society on their own, it can be helpful to recruit some additional support. Look for people out in the community such as co-workers, therapists or case managers. These people can help to provide support in different settings and reduce your teenager’s overall stress and anxiety.

Although it can be difficult at times (and often a thankless task!) to help your teenager with Aspergers to develop their independence skills, it is worthwhile pursuing. By working on essential life skills with them, you are helping them to develop their future prospects in life.

Dave Angel is a Social Worker and has been helping parents of Teenagers with Aspergers online for over four years. Get your free report ‘Secrets to Parenting your Child with Aspergers’ Guide at www.parentingaspergers.com/blog
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Child Autism Test – How Heavy Metal Testing Helps Your Child

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An Autism Intervention Specialist Doctor Explains: Autism intervention includes the biomedical testing for heavy metals. This content explores the problem of heavy metal diagnostic testing. Child Autism Test

Testing in an substantial ingredient of medicine, and the diagnostic tools available for heavy metal exposure and toxicity are important to understand. There is NO TEST that absolutely tells the exact level of heavy metals stored in your child’s body. You can get an idea about the presence of heavy metals, but no absolute total value is measurable. The reason is, metals are stored in many different places in the body, i.e. brain, kidney, liver. Child Autism Test

So why do testing at all? The reason it is important to develop a baseline for any individual on the autism-spectrum to determine the need and progression overtime with biomedical autism Intervention, such as detoxification treatment. HAIR: * Gives an idea of past exposure of metals that have been in tissue circulation for the past 10-12 weeks. * Cheap, non-invasive and easy to obtain. * Autism-spectrum children generally show lower levels of heavy metals compared to many neuro-typical children, particularly mercury. This could indicate that a child is not excreting the mercury effectively. Child Autism Test

FECAL (stool):

* Gives an idea of environmental exposure via food, air, and water.

* Levels on fecal test DO NOT necessarily indicate what is being detoxified from inside the body (from the bloodstream into the digestive system).

* “In through the mouth, out through the rectum” – is most likely what is being evaluated.

BLOOD:

* Normal most of the time unless there is recent or ongoing exposure. For example, many kids have blood serum mercury tests done that are normal. All this indicates is that they have not been recently exposed to mercury. It does not rule out the possibility of mercury storing in body tissue and staying there causing damage. Child Autism Test

* Blood immunology (antibody) testing can give an idea of toxicity – difficult in some kids because production of antibodies is deficient and testing not widely available.

URINE:

* Preferred test for provocative challenge testing. This is where a detoxifying agent is consumed and then urine is collected over a period of time to determine the level of metal excretion into the urine. Usually, a baseline urine sample is collected before the challenge test to get an accurate measurement of detoxifying heavy metals. Child Autism Test

* Indicates what is truly coming out.

* Gives an idea of what the body burden maybe, but not 100% all the time.

* Porphyrin Urine Analysis – a unique test that does indicate cellular toxicity to heavy metals. Don’t let your love ones suffer anymore! Lead them out through Child Autism Test program now!

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Autistic Toy – Not All Products Are Equal

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Autism is an increasingly prevalent disability in children. One poll states that 1 out of every 150 children born has chosen fashion of autism. This is an increase in value of over 170% in the go on 20 years. With this increase, there are now many doctors, teachers, and therapist who are experts in struggling with kids with autism. Autistic Toy

These experts agree that one important way to reach autistic children and help them in their development is through play. It is important to keep in mind that what “typical” children might play with, may be different than what special needs children would like and benefit from. Here are some tips that can help you choose toys that are appropriate.

Choose Toys Based On Developmental Level

Before choosing toys for autistic children, it is important to know what types of toys autistic children would benefit from. Toys should not be chosen based on age. Since autistic children develop at different rates and there are varying levels of autism, toys should be chosen based on developmental level. This can be determined by observing the child.

Repetitive Motion Toys

Autistic children like toys that require them to do repetitive motions. They like to try the same thing over and over and to figure out how things work. It offers them some type of calm. They soothe themselves by repetitive motion. They like to push buttons, turn knobs or, say the same phrases repeatedly. Autistic Toy

This need for repetitive motion can be fulfilled through toys. Simple balls that children can roll back and forth or exercise balls that children can sit on and roll are great choices. Oval balls, peanut shaped balls, and round balls all work well in giving children the opportunity to roll balls back and forth with a teacher or care giver. Even infant toys such as stackers are great ways for children to perform the repetitive motions that are important to their sense of calm. Autistic Toy

Balance and Movement Toys

Along with playing with toys that require repetitive motion, autistic children like to move themselves in a repetitive way. Many autistic children rock back and forth, do the same motion with their hands continually, or may even bang their head. Many look at these motions as strange, however many researchers tell you that repetitive movements help autistic children regulate their bodies. The motions sooth and center them as yoga might for an adult. This is why swinging or spinning are great options. Don’t let your love ones suffer anymore! Lead them out through Autistic Toy program now!

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