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Question?: Autistic Angry Outbursts

Robert asks…

Parents of Older Autistic Children w/ Aggression?

I have been using Safe Crisis Management holds for my son’s aggressive “outbursts” since he was diagnosed (PDDNOS). I have been having some problems lately due to the fact he’s getting bigger and is very flexible.

Earlier today Austins in-home therapist pushed him a bit to far and he lost it. Once I got him in the hold he began to wiggle and fight. He threw his head back and managed to bust my lip a bit and when I tried to steady his head he turned and bit my arm leaving a decent little bruise.

I was calm through it all, and finally managed to get him calmed down. But once he went back to his therapist and my husband got home, I locked myself in the bathroom and seriously considered pulling my hair out LOL. I asked his therapist for advice, but he was no help at all.

Did you have this problem when your child got older? If they were able to overpower the holds, what did you do to keep them from harming themselves/others?
No judging my son, especially if you have no experience with children on the spectrum. He is the sweetest kid on the planet 90% of the time. He just has trouble expressing his “bad moods”.
Erin: I hope it works out with your son. I’ve been through the pre-diagnosis phase, it’s rough. Austin is 8 now, and generally his episodes will send him “after people”. He won’t really sit still through it.

admin answers:

Well, my son is 2 1/2 years old, and not yet been diagnosed with autism, but we believe he has it. He has the same outbursts that you describe your son to have. I have tried holds as well, but all it does is hurt us both. I really don’t have that great of an answer for you, but I do know that you need to keep yourself safe as well as your son. My son will usually stop when he wants to, and I’ve found that the holds just made him angrier. What I do may sound terrible, but it’s the best way I’ve found so far. I have a big, soft chair that I set him in and just let him go. He can’t really hurt himself on this chair, it’s very soft and it’s over-sized. Maybe try something like that, just let the outburst run its course, while making sure he stays safe and doesn’t hurt himself. To me, it’s better than you getting a busted nose or something, and then not being able to help him through is problem because you have something you need to tend to on yourself.

Good luck, if you find any better advice, let me know.

Edit: I am really sorry to hear that. Nick’s a little bit the same way, until I sit him down and let him go at it in his chair. He’ll come hit and kick and bite me, hit his little brother, and the works. Plus, he beats himself up something fierce. I don’t have any better advice for you, but I think, if that therapist saw it, he should have been of more help. Maybe you should get another therapist? I don’t know, but I think they should be able to help with that.

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Question?: Asperger Syndrome Quiz

Nancy asks…

What is it like having an autistic / asperger’s syndrome student in your class?

admin answers:

My mother works with autistic kids at an elementary school, and she says the three biggest issues are disruptions, accomodations, and acceptance. An autistic student may inadvertantly do or say things that are socially inappropriate, like taking another person’s toy without asking. The teacher may need to devote more attention to this student, which means less attention to other students. If the student receives accomodations, like having an education assistant in the classroom, this would draw attention to his differences. The other students may be jealous that the autistic student gets extra time on quizzes, or leaves the classroom sometimes to go to his social skills group, or whatever the case may be. And of course, some of the other students will not accept their autistic classmate as part of the class unit. They might exclude, tease, or bully him. Having an autistic kid in the class can be a very good thing, though. It exposes the students to different types of people, and teaches them about diversity, patience, and tolerance.

Each autistic person is different, though. The student’s personality and level of functioning affect what he or she is like in the classroom. I have Asperger’s, and I was always very well-behaved in class and polite to my classmates. My Asperger’s had little to no effect on my classmates; most of them probably never guessed I had a disorder. I’ve had classes with other people on the spectrum, though. Some kept to themselves and rarely said anything, some were disruptive and constantly in trouble, and some seemed a bit odd but mostly got along fine.

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Question?: Autism Signs And Symptoms

Sharon asks…

How do you know if a child has Autism?

My three year old nephew is a pretty regular kid. He can tlk but he doessnt understand things and usually ends up repeating you but he is very smart in many ways. My other relatives say it could be autism. How do you knnow for sure?

admin answers:

Most autistic children have a normal to high I.Q. The biggest symptom is the failure to acquire language. If your nephew is not using his language appropriately and just repeating what he hears, it could be something called echolalia, which could be a sign of autism. The best way to know is to take him to the pediatrician, and see if they recommend a screening. They will tell you where to go. You really need a professional to see him because autism can be a spectrum of symptoms and behaviors and some children have it more severely than others.

One thing is for sure, early intervention is the key. So, if you really suspect autism, don’t hesitate to have him diagnosed. The sooner he is diagnosed, the sooner he can receive help. Children who receive early intervention are usually more functional as they grow.

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Question?: Asperger Syndrome Test

Sandy asks…

How do people with learning disabilities have normal intelligence when they can have academic delays?

I’m confused when I go on websites and it says that people with learning disabilities have average to above average intelligence. Also, can a person with aspergers syndrome have a learning disability? Why do people say people with autism have lower intelligence but can be VERY smart?

admin answers:

People with Aspergers syndrome score between above average and genius levels on IQ testing so whoever said that was probably talking about the severe Autism cases on the low end of the spectrum…. Not those with Aspergers.

And yes people with Aspergers can have a learning disability. A learning disability only means that there is a block causing the individual to not be able to learn in the conventional ways. I have Aspergers and I have a math disability. I have to learn math a different way then how it is typically taught, therefore it took longer for me to learn it. But in every other area I was in advanced placement and honors classes.

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Question?: Autism Signs In Infants

Ken asks…

Around what age is autism typically diagnosed?

Can it really be recognized in infants? If so, does the margin for misdiagnosis go up significantly in children so young? Will an autistic child always show signs so early or is it easy to miss until they are well into toddlerhood?
Alexandra – I’m just curious, I’m not concerned about Ari or anything…she *did* make me think of it because she has been engaging in some obsessive behavior lately…she’ll discover something new and do it over and over and over again, but I’m pretty sure that’s normal. It just made me wonder how you determine what’s “normal” and what isn’t when it comes to really young children/babies…their behavior is so all over the place, it just seems to me that it would be nearly impossible to diagnosis behavior abnormalities in children her age and younger.

admin answers:

I have a friend who’s son is the same age as mine (18 months). She’s mentioned in the past her fear that her son has ADHD or Autism. Her son’s first Aunt has autism, not sure what spectrum but she functions at the level of a baby, literally, and she’s a grown woman. She doesn’t talk and can’t be left alone and must be fully cared for.

Me, trying to be a comforting and good friend instantly dismissed her fears and worries. Told her these things could be normal, he’s fine, don’t worry, some kids are just different. And I honestly believed so at the time. I thought she was being a worried mom and I personally never noticed anything especially off about her son. Until I got to spend more and more time with her son and she pointed things out to me and I looked up some info. He does thinks like when he’s excited he makes this strange noise and flaps his arms and slaps his own face over and over and over. He’s delayed verbally and I felt it could be normal and he was just taking his time. All kids develop differently. But the few words he does know he only mimics the words, he does not actually seem to know what they mean, he just says them to say them or when she asks him to. I often feel terrible for her because her child is the most difficult child I’ve ever seen, and she does such a good job at keeping her cool. He has zero attention span and is always on the go, running here and there and then he throws a tantrum when she tries to settle him. But he does not move or be active with a purpose, he just runs around for the sake of moving. And he is always throwing a fit about something but never seems to have the ability to tell her and does not even try to gesture or point or anything. I’ve never in my life seen a child that threw more fits and especially over nothing than her son. I feel really bad for her sometimes and often feel like she should get a reward for how well she copes.

Anyway, I have started to see what she’s talking about when she said she’s worried. And am feeling bad for being so dismissive of her worries when she brought them up to me. And now I don’t know how to tell her I think she has a reason to worry and if he were my son I’ve have him evaluated or keep a close eye on him. I don’t know how to bring it back up, or say “maybe you were right and need to have him checked”. I mean how does one do that to a friend, and worry her even more?

My son does some things and I just think “oh, how very odd and strange”. He even does a few things that would be on the “signs for autism”. Like he sorts and stacks things and loves having things in their proper place and he is very particular and will focus on one thing for quite some time. The other day we were at the park with my friend and her son… There her son was running around like a madman and my son was in the same place for nearly 45 minutes sorting bark in the outdoor play kitchen on the playground. I thought “how strange, he’s on a playground with so many things to climb on and here he stands sorting bark and rocks, how odd”. But that’s the only “sign” he shows and I do not feel he has Autism or feel I have any reason to worry. He’s social, friendly, has age appropriate development and skills and seems to be a normal child to me.

As mothers we worry and are always on the look out for “what ifs”. But we also need to go with what our gut tells us! My gut tells me my son is fine and perfectly healthy. If my gut was telling me “something is very wrong”, I would have him evaluated or at least bring it up to the ped.

As far as an age, I’ve heard of kids not being diagnosed till they were already as old as teens. But the youngest kid I’ve ever heard of being diagnosed was 20 months. But he was extremely delayed and showed all the obvious signs, he even walked on his tip toes. So I feel for some kids it is possible to diagnose it early on, but others may not show any real signs until much later.

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Question?: Autism Signs And Symptoms

Paul asks…

How do you kow if your baby has autism?

I know its a stupid question . But how would you know if your baby has autism!? I’m a first time mom! I worry about everything when it come to my baby.

admin answers:

Actually, some signs of autism are clear at earlier than 6 months of age. However, it is often easier to spot later – 12 months and on. Autism is VERY complex and has a variety of symptoms, none of which are the same for each person with autism. Your child will have to undergo a series of developmental tests to determine whether he/she is on the spectrum.
If you suspect a problem, please have your child evaluated ASAP. The key to helping children with any developmental difference reach their optimum potential is early intervention. Good luck.

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Question?: Pdd

Mandy asks…

Any advice on a great affectionate dog for 2 year old with PDD-NOS?

My Son has just been diagnosed with PDD-NOS and we are looking for a very affectionate, medium size dog that will tollerate apartment living and does not shed very much or at all. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks.

admin answers:

I would wait a few more years, and depending where on the spectrum your son lies – he may need a few more years to understand how to treat a dog. If he has meltdowns, it could lead to a potential bite.
I have a lot of experience w/ PDD-NOS – and if you son was anything like my daughter at that age, I’d wait.
BUT – if you are dead set about getting a dog, you should just check the shelters.

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Question?: Autistic Behavior

Mary asks…

How young can you first notice the social differences of a autistic child?

I have heard that autism can’t be diagnosed until a child is about 1 year or older. I am wondering if autistic children behave the same way as non-autistic children as a babies (less than 1 year old)? I also know that autism affects a child’s ability to interact/communicate/socialize with others. I’m wondering if a happy baby who smiles ALL THE TIME and loves people could develop autism or if most autistic kids were more withdrawn as a baby?

admin answers:

Can’t speak for all autistic children here, but my son from a very early age seemed to absorb everything going on around him; sometimes looked at people and sometimes didn’t; showed little receptive/expressive/interactive responses to the attention of others and all this was obvious from around the age approx. 3 months (possibly earlier, when the ‘average’ baby can be seen to respond in an interactive manner to the attention of others).
He was formally diagnosed with autism at the age of two.
But I knew from the above mentioned very early age that he was a little different to my other children. (Adored him no less)
Some close friends and family even stated that he seemed to be a wise soul who seemed he had “been here before”.
If my son had displayed an avid interaction with those around him (and me) as a baby, I may never have suspected the possibility of autism.
Having many family members and friends on the spectrum, I have observed their varying degrees of interaction with others (particularly the ones I have known as babies), but the one-on-one interaction before the age of 1 was generally minimal.
Some children travel through early baby-hood seeming to respond ‘normally’, only to appear to ‘change’ to ‘silent-mode’ and present with autistic behaviours after e.g. Vaccinations.
Personally, I don’t believe in the vaccination ‘connection’.
Autism, I believe, is genetic by nature.

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Question?: Autistic Definition

Ruth asks…

What are some good things to do with autistic kids?

My cuz is autistic and I ned to find done good ways to play with him. can you help me?

admin answers:

There are different forms of autism, and different levels of disability across the whole spectrum. About 40% of all people on the spectrum have intellectual disabilities as well, this is a lot higher for people with Autistic disorder but people with Asperger’s syndrome, by definition, are in the normal range. Some people have no speech, whilst others have minor idiosyncrasies (or no abnormalities). The vast majority have sensory problems, but this varies greatly as well.

You didn’t mention how old he is either, it would obviously be inappropriate to read a Teletubbies book to an intellectually normal, high functioning 15 year old.

If the individual is high functioning, then an age appropriate activity (tailored around an interest) would be fine.

If the individual is low functioning, then you could watch a favorite TV show with them. Even with low functioning individuals, there are some with no communicative abilities or ability to interact with others, if your cousin is this severe then there is little playing you would be able to do with him. With individuals with some speech, a simple, repetitive card game (such as happy families) would be good.

There is a strong possibility that he has a specific interest, reading a book about this (be it horses or lawnmowers) with him would probably be a good way of entertaining him.

Also, try going to the park. Unless he is very severe then this would be good for anyone. Every child likes going to the park and insomnia and ADHD like behaviors are very common amongst individuals on the spectrum, some exercise will help with this a lot.

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Question?: Treatment For Autism In Adults

Mark asks…

Can autistic children lead normal lives as adults?

My 3 y/o cousin was recently diagnosed with autism. He is high functioning, but not enough to be considered Asperger’s. He’s already getting treatment. How likely is it that he will be able to live a normal life as an adult? Like have a job and a family, and his behaviors and delays won’t be as much of a problem?
Lida – Even I know that’s not true. People with autism are PEOPLE, not monsters.

admin answers:

That’s hard to say because it really does depend on how high he is up on the spectrum, but one thing is for sure, it gets better as you get older. I have Asperger’s and now that I’m older no one would ever guess I have it, while when I was a kid I would be freaking out over my shoes not being put on correctly, crying in class, and had almost no friends. But I learned to cope with changes and emotions better and I’m WAY better at talking with people. Everyone is different though, his life may never be totally normal, but that’s not a bad thing, he can still have a fun and interesting life, best thing to do is help him with talking to people and making friends.

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