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Question?: Autism Signs And Symptoms

Sharon asks…

How do you know if a child has Autism?

My three year old nephew is a pretty regular kid. He can tlk but he doessnt understand things and usually ends up repeating you but he is very smart in many ways. My other relatives say it could be autism. How do you knnow for sure?

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Most autistic children have a normal to high I.Q. The biggest symptom is the failure to acquire language. If your nephew is not using his language appropriately and just repeating what he hears, it could be something called echolalia, which could be a sign of autism. The best way to know is to take him to the pediatrician, and see if they recommend a screening. They will tell you where to go. You really need a professional to see him because autism can be a spectrum of symptoms and behaviors and some children have it more severely than others.

One thing is for sure, early intervention is the key. So, if you really suspect autism, don’t hesitate to have him diagnosed. The sooner he is diagnosed, the sooner he can receive help. Children who receive early intervention are usually more functional as they grow.

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Question?: Autism Signs In 3 Year Olds

Jenny asks…

Do you think I lost my outgoing nature from autism?

I think I might have autism. Every since my 13th birthday, I lost my outgoing glow around my relatives. I’m now gloomy and shy around them and I get nervous if I made eye contact with them, I only make eye contact to people I know really good.
I’ve actually had social problems since I was 11.

admin answers:

No, absolutely not. Autism is something people are born with or develop at a very young age- it shows up when a kid is between 1-3 or 4 years old usually? If you weren’t showing signs of it before you were 13, you don’t have it.

This sounds more like normal phase/stage of shyness or maybe anxiety disorder of some kind. Are you nervous around other people besides particular relatives or do you worry about social situations or crowds or thngs like that? If you start avoiding people because of it or are just feeling nervous a lot talk to your parents or your doctor.

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Question?: What Is Autism Yahoo Answers

Richard asks…

How do i get kids to stop picking on my autistic sister?

I feel so bad because nobody wants to share a room with her for her Washington DC trip. I try my best to tell kids to back off and stop being bitches to her because she has feelings too! She doesn’t have really bad autism just slight. I hope all those kids that bully her know that what goes around comes around… PLEASE HELP A.S.A.P

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People can really be cruel. :/ But maybe if you could talk to them and explain to them how she feels whenever they do shit like that, they would see that she has feelings to. You could try telling someone you trust that they are picking on her and see if that does any good. I don’t have any relatives who are autistic, but a few people are in my school and I just can’t understand how people can be so cruel and mean to them. They’re just like everybody else. :/ I hope all goes well for you and your sister in the end! 🙂

If you don’t care, could you answer mine?


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Question?: Autism Signs In Children

Paul asks…

How can I learn sign language and teach it to my brother?

I looked up online that sign language can stimulate an autistic child’s mind and communication. My little brother is 10 and has severe autism and the doctor says he has no chance of speaking. But I want to help him, by teaching him. I learned some words and showed my brother the alphabet on youtube, even though he didn’t pay attention. Is there a better way to teach him? I also want to get my parents and other relatives to learn it. Any ideas?

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He should be recieving some sort of education..it should include communication..find out what the school is doing.

an alternative is a PECS system..using pictures *or wriiten words to communicate.

You don’t need to learn actual siagn language at this point.

You can look up the individual words as you need them

start with some basics eat, drink (or a specific drink water, milk), bathroom, favorite toys like ball, music

be prepared to work on sick/pain when he is actually hurt

depending in his ability you may need to work on one at a time or a small group of 2-3

to start try ball (if he likes ball)
show him the ball
shown him the sign
take his hands and help him make the sign
give him the ball

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Question?: Schizophrenia Stories

Susan asks…

stories about schizophrenia?yourself or relatives?

Any stories on how it first started developing in relatives or yourself?So my dad suffers from schizophrenia and so does my aunt and they hear voices and are very isolated,I’m very scared I may develop it as well.I have a therapist appointment in a few weeks but I would love to hear your personal stories to make note of early warning symptoms.I went from being a really hard worker to after having a panic attack from snorting adderall once to being apathetic,anxious,having sleep disturbances and being able to hyper focus on stuff(weird symptom)like certain books on mental health.I have been doing better this last week after reading a couple of self help books and applying techniques I’ve been sleeping a bit better too and have a job interview tmr.it may jus be anxiety but I want to hear stories on how it first developed in people too,like where they jus in denial at first.like for instance where they hearing voices at first and thought it was jus them and then they became more persistent . I don’t need jus the symptoms posted because those are already online and I’m aware of them but I wanna hear personal stories from real people like was it sudden?gradual?and how did it happen?life changes,drugs etc Also very important what kind of personality traits did they posess?artsy creative as opposed to logical and grounded I always considered myself to be the latter,I wonder if that will be a contributing factor too.not to say all artsy ppl are schizophrenic or anything jus saying they tend to dwell alot more in fantasy and seem to be more imaginative than practical jus wondering if thats relevant.
And no I am not doing any drugs or drinking,haven’t touched either for 8 months.I’m living a healthy lifestyle with excersise and alot of omegas also

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I work in a hospital and I recently worked with a schizophrenic patient. She was not logical or creative either. She was pretty much dependent on her room mate (who abused her) and from the stories she told her’s seemed to have derived from being abused and drugs. She had a rough life and her voices told her to blow her heart up on crack. And she had nearly went crazy when it first started because it was so sudden and she checked herself into a facility until they got her on some meds that were effective. But as I said hers was definitely triggered by sudden life changes bc of the horrific things that had been done to her. As for personality traits she was very cocky, yet quiet, very figgity, very very talkative, sneaky, but she was the sweetest person ive ever met. Hope this helped. If you want more info email me at coreyevans256@yahoo.com

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A Dad’s Perspective on The Journey With Autism and What We Can Do to Help

Dads come in all shapes and sizes, personalities and temperaments, just like moms. Both mothers and fathers have dreams for their children that begin even before conception. Once a person discovers they are to become a parent, ideas form of how things will be with their son or daughter.

Any father-to-be will entertain visions of the type of child he wants to raise. He will ponder what he will teach his child, what values he wants to instill and how he will spend his time with his child. By the time his child is born the father may already have a certain scenario fixed in his mind.

Once the excitement of becoming a father has lulled, these preconceived notions will be further shaped as reality sets in and life unfolds, but nothing is more jarring than finding out that life with your child will not be as you expected due to a diagnosis of Autism and all the challenges that will follow.

Hearing the words, “Your child has Autism” is a shock that is difficult for anyone to immediately handle and everyone deals with it differently. This news will affect dads as well as moms, siblings, grandparents and other relatives, even friends & neighbors and everyone will eventually come to accept the child in their own way and at their own pace.

Therefore it is unrealistic to expect that husbands, wives and partners will be on the same page when it comes to accepting and dealing with an autism diagnosis for their child. Even though moms and dads need to go through the same phases towards acceptance, the journey for dads tends to take longer.

So, what do we know that will help us understand what this process is like for dads and what can we do to support them along this difficult path? (While there are no absolutes about men and the way they cope it is impossible to cover every possibility so please bear with these ‘generalized’ statements knowing they do not apply to all).

What we know: Men have a hard time dealing with things they can’t fix. Men take pride in their ability to solve problems and are almost always ready with solutions when a real or perceived problem is presented. Any dad is apt to feel powerless or inept when the usual: working harder or smarter isn’t going to fix their child. When the dad comes face to face with a situation such as this, there is, unfortunately no simple ready-made solution that will allow them to resolve the challenges their child faces.

What we can do: With that in mind, try providing a dad with small problems to solve regarding his child. Even though men feel most effective when solving big problems, giving them little things to resolve that can be successfully accomplished will help them feel useful. Placing a dad in a role of trouble-shooter will make him less apt to feel powerless and will provide evidence to the fact that little things really do matter.

What we know: Our culture has conditioned men to see anything that is out of the ordinary as a possible sign of weakness. Dads may struggle more with acceptance of a child with Autism because they may see it as a reflection of inadequacy: “If my child is not OK then I’m NOT OK.” Anything that can be construed as a weakness has the potential to create dissonance within a dad and any real or perceived judgment from a peer can become another roadblock to overcome.

What we can do: This is the time to be patient with yourself and your spouse and for you to both focus on the positive and support and talk with one another concentrating on the strengths of all involved instead of pointing out the negatives which only have the power to create a downward spiral of doom and gloom. Taking the time every evening to identify the positives that have occurred during the day is a wonderful activity to keep your mindsets headed in the right direction.

What we know: Be it genetic or societal conditioning we are familiar with the notion that women tend to reach out more for guidance and emotional support. Men on the other hand are less inclined to go this route and are not as forthcoming in expressing their deep-seated and when they do, it is often not done in the same manner as women. Male gatherings are less conducive to heartfelt talks about Autism and less likely that a dad is able to gain any real compassion or understanding from the listener.

What we can do: It is important to find ways to encourage fathers of children with Autism to discover avenues that will allow them to vent. This is hard for dads and they need help doing so but reaching out to other dads will help shatter these unspoken codes. Finding support groups for men in similar situations will be the best gift you can give any dad in this situation.

What we know: We all like to appear knowledgeable in everything we do, but not even a genius can know everything. Supposedly, men don’t like asking for directions and they don’t like to read instruction manuals, but perhaps what is most difficult for them as a parent of a child on the Autism spectrum is not having the knowledge or experience to know that their child is not deliberately defying their authority or rejecting their affection.

What we can do: Find ways to feed information to a dad in bits and pieces. Giving a dad a book to read may not be greeted with much enthusiasm, but tactfully sharing things you have discovered will plant seeds and gradually create a curiosity that takes on a life of its own. Helping a parent get to know their child and understand the unique challenges that they face will make for a stronger connection which puts you one step closer towards acceptance.

It is times like these when it is important to remember that we are all given the children we are meant to have even though they may not be exactly what we hoped for when we first found out we were going to be parents. This means that we have to let go of our prior visions and focus on connecting with the wonderful gift we have before us. As we focus on the abilities our children do have, we then create the power to change possibilities and dream new dreams.

Connie Hammer, MSW, parent educator, consultant and coach, guides parents of young children recently diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder to uncover abilities and change possibilities. Visit her website http://www.parentcoachingforautism.com/ to get your FREE resources – a parenting e-course, Parenting a Child with Autism – 3 Secrets to Thrive and a weekly parenting tip newsletter, The Spectrum.

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Am I Spoiling My Child With Autism or Pushing Too Much?

We all want to be confident that we are doing our best as parents but confidence can be difficult to maintain when our well intentioned friends and relatives sometimes judge us to be too demanding or too indulging where our children are concerned. Their declarations and suggestions come from the non-Autistic world – a perspective that has limited knowledge of raising a child with Autism and therefore is difficult to accept. Our job is to help educate them otherwise but that takes time and parents of children with special needs don’t have much of that.

Parents of children on the Autism spectrum are focused on finding their way through this unpredictable journey of Autism, learning as they go. Finding the right balance when parenting any child is a challenge but exploring uncharted waters such as these takes extra energy as well.

A good parent is always examining his or her skills and evaluating them for effectiveness while being open to make adjustments along the way. Getting stuck in default mode or a pattern of responding that might be a bit too indulgent is easy to fall in to and difficult to get out of at times. Avoiding a dilemma such as this requires being open minded and receptive to creating new ways of relating to your child.

With this in mind, I always encourage parents to keep the end goal in mind because it will help you stay on the most direct path to your child’s best future.

Occasionally ask yourself:

What type of person do I want my daughter to be?

What type of skills and values do I want my son to have as an adult?

And the most important question of all,

Is what I am doing right now as helping my child get to where I would like them to be as an adult?

If the aim is to have an independent individual blossom, have the courage to ask yourself if you are doing too much to keep your child dependent? Yes, sometimes it is easier and quicker to do things yourself but it may be robbing your child of learning and mastering a crucial daily living skill. A child who is not able to care for himself adequately is one thing but being able to and having someone else do it for him is another.

How much we enable our children or encourage them to do for them selves will depend on where they are on the Autism spectrum. The one thing that will differ from child to child is the starting point. But wherever we begin from, we should always be moving our children forward towards the person we know they can become. Sometimes all they can manage is baby steps and other days they may even regress backwards but the question should always be; How have I moved my child towards her potential today?

Every parent wants their child to reach for the stars and grab the ones they can and parents of children with an Autism Spectrum Disorder are no different. Just how accommodating do you need to be in order to help your child grab the stars within reach and how forceful do you need to be in order for your child to stretch a bit further for more? For any child to accomplish all he is capable of and more, finding just the right balance between not enough pressure and too much is extremely important.

Finding the best way to motivate your children without unknowingly discouraging them can be tricky. And just as Goldilocks did, every parent needs to find a method that is “not too easy, not too tough, but just right” for each child.

How does a parent find just the right touch? Here are six strategies to keep in mind for discovering just what your child needs to blossom.

• Take baby steps – Pacing one’s self and finding a rhythm are the first things that come to mind when knowing just how much to push or not. Breaking things down into small and attainable steps is always wise. If you want your child with Autism to become more social, then gradually expose him or her to small chunks of time in a social setting. Start with five minutes, and then add one or two minutes more after each success.

• Motivate your child internally. On of the best indicators of success is how self-motivated a person is. Unfortunately, parents sometimes spend too much time trying to get their children to comply with the use of external rewards. To help your child acquire a way to self-motivate, it is always better to focus on using praise – and praise for effort more than you do on outcome. The sooner a child gets a sense that they have power and control over their own learning by the amount of effort they put into it, the less likely you will have to prod them along.

• Tap into interests – Always try to tie in one of your child’s favorite activities or pastimes into the experience when you are gently nudging her towards a goal. This will help stimulate her internal motivation to stretch herself as much as possible. When your goal is to reduce a repetitive behavior, distracting your child with another activity or task that they really favor is helpful.

• Watch for signs of stress or success – Always be on the alert for signals of distress and have a plan B on hand that is ready to put in place. Stress is counterproductive to progress and can easily lure your child on the Autism spectrum into a state of frustration and anxiety that can lead to a negative experience making it unlikely that your child will want to pick up again where she left off. On the other hand, if you see success, celebrate it!

• Create enjoyment – Who doesn’t like fun? Find a way to keep things light and humorous. Not only will your child delight in the process more but the contagious nature of laughter will spread throughout your child and help create a positive and powerful energy that is bound to increase his stamina towards his goal.

• Make adjustments as needed – Paying attention to your child’s ability to transition is important here. When you know an adjustment has to be made begin shifting gears as gently as possible considering what you know about your child’s tolerance for change. The skill and finesse at which you make this happen will directly correlate to paving the way to success

Connie Hammer, MSW, parent educator, consultant and coach, guides parents of young children recently diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder to uncover abilities and change possibilities. Visit her website http://www.parentcoachingforautism.com/ to get your FREE resources – a parenting e-course, Parenting a Child with Autism – 3 Secrets to Thrive and a weekly parenting tip newsletter, The Spectrum.

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Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide Review – It Is Not As Difficult As It Seems

If you think handling a child is difficult, wait until you handle a child with Aspergers. Kids with this disorder have difficulties in social interaction and often display intense interests on specific things. Aspergers is an autism spectrum that most parents would give up on. I hope you are not one of these parents. And Dave Angel, the author of Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide, does not want you to. So, in order to help the parents or relatives of a child with Asperger Syndrome, he developed and published a guide for all of you.

The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide has been used by thousands of people to help them in their everyday life with a kid that has Aspergers. Most parents of a child with Aspergers would split up because of the strains and pressure in taking care of them. If you are alone taking care of your child or relative with this disorder, it is a tough life you got.

You always need to face the pressure when you go to gatherings or occasions and you need to bring your child. You can not do what you really want because you need to guide him or her every now and then since the child is not very good with these. And the worst part is that even you, the parent or guardian, have problems in communicating with him or her. You would feel that you can not get to know the child better and see the world in his eyes.

In order to cope with the kid, you need to give your whole heart in taking care of him or her. These kids mostly want something rather than everything and they give intense desire for this thing. As the guardian, you need to always be there and watch him do the same routines over and over again. You need to adjust to the very sensitive senses of the child and most of all, always understand their feelings.

Taking care of a child with this syndrome is not as hard as it seems. However, you need to be guided in order to understand them and give the world they are comfortable to live in. Dave’s Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide is the one you need. You can get yours here http://bit.ly/ParentingAspergersResourceGuide with a money back guarantee so that you have nothing to lose! And do not forget, everything that you will do from the guide, do it with all your heart; that will make everything easier.



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Sign Of Autism In Toddlers – 4 Easy Tips To Effectively Deal With Early Signs Of Autism

Sign Of Autism In Toddlers

There are 4 easy tips to consider in the beginning about dealing with early signs of Autism. These are things many times parents of adult children with Autism do not think to talk about with younger parents. These tips can help parents with the confidence they need early on.

1. If you have older children you have children you can make comparisons between them. Yes I know everyone told me not to compare my children too. While that is true on many levels this is a little different situation. You are using your gut instincts to judge if there is a problem that needs further investigation. Sign Of Autism In Toddlers

2. If you do not have older children find some. You can usually find younger children at the fast food play ground or Mother’s Day Out programs. Ask relatives with children a little older what they think.

3. Even though all children develop differently it can give you a rough idea of what should be going on. Now and later in you and your child’s life you will want to know older children with and without Autism.

4. Make a list of the similarities and differences. This list will come in handy. Parents will be able to use it with doctors and therapist and even with the early intervention system in their state. You will want to update your list every 6 months or every year. Years from now you will want to keep a record of what was happening during this time. Sometimes it is hard to see how far we have come if we don’t keep a written record. Sign Of Autism In Toddlers

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