Marriages or partnership of a person with Aspergers Syndrome is often tough and demanding for both of them. Because of difficulty in verbal communication, social skills and reciprocity of feelings and behavior, those with Aspergers find it hard to start a friendship to ongoing relationship into an intimate one.
Asperger partner’s problem with communication, is that they know what they think and feel but they cannot express it and they are not aware of the feelings and thoughts of their loved ones. Those with Aspergers cannot connect with their special loved ones well as much as those without it. Another is having lack of emotion and emotional connection, they are viewed as uncaring, cold and selfish which can lead to misunderstanding, disappointment, anxiety, and even depression. It is difficult for either partner to have or want sexual intimacy especially those women who prefers to have sex when emotion is involved. This does not imply that those with Aspergers. It’s not that they cannot feel love, they just have difficulty to show or express care and love.
Those with Aspergers may have unusual behaviors like insensitivity, not maintaining eye contact, obsessive and compulsive behaviors, social anxiety, a preoccupation with specific items or areas of interest and hobbies. They have sensory issues like they do not want to be touched, dislike to a particular sound, light and taste. It makes the connection and relationship more difficult. This complicates the fulfillment of having intimacy and sexual relationship with their partners. With these problems, it can destroy their relationship or marriage and can lead to separation.
They have a chance to love and be loved. It is a matter of quality in a relationship with a person with Asperger syndrome. Those with Aspergers never seem to learn that their wife or husband cannot feel their love if they did not show and demonstrate it. They are giving their best to maintain their relationships but they have trouble in sharing their thoughts and feelings. They need a partner that would really love, care and understand them in the best that they can. Well in this world, if you really love a person, you would be with him in sickness and in health. A bond that should not be taken for granted.
For those with Aspergers, in order to save their relationship and marriage, partners must seek professional help through marriage counseling. Through counseling, the asperger symptoms can be dealt with. It can also help them learn to overcome feelings of anger, disappointment, and depression. Another is social skill training; the partner with asperger will help them to communicate or verbally interact and associate with others especially with their partners and loved ones. It will also teach them to recognize facial expressions and learn body language skills to interpret what is being said by others. They can also conquer feeling of isolation by joining group therapy sessions.
With all the patience, understanding and acceptance of the conditions of their partners and willingness on the part of the person with Aspergers syndrome to undergo a therapy, this can be a great help to save the relationship and marriage. Aspergers is possible to manage with help. If you or a loved one has Aspergers, get the help you need now before it is too late.
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