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Question?: Autistic Behavior

Nancy asks…

What would be the steps to take for someone who wants to work with Autistic children?

I’m 17 and I want to work to work with Autistic children and their family. I have a nephew with Autistic characteristics and a cousin who’s autistic and I want to be in a field where I help autistic children and their families. What type of classes would I have to take in college?

admin answers:

You would take classes in early childhood development, and child psychology to start. A class in behavioral analysis would be valuable as well as behavior management.

Learning about speech therapy and sign language would be great tools to have and increase your value to employers and families in the future as well. Being bilingual English/spanish would really open more doors for you. There are not enough therapists with a good command of both languages, and the Spanish speaking population is often very underserved in this area.

Here’s a great website with a list and description of courses that would be valuable http://www.universalclass.com/i/subjects/specialed.htm

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Question?: Autistic Definition

Carol asks…

How can i help my 2 year old autistic cousin?


I just heard from my aunt that my 2 year old cousin was diagnosed today with autism. I did some research online, and didn’t really find the answer to what I’m looking for. My question is for the ones who’s had experience with autism how can I help? Unfortunately she lives in another country, but I want to help anyway I can.

Thank you for your help.

admin answers:

Hi, I’m a 36 year-old male diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome 5 years ago (unexpectedly) with an autistic older sister and an autistic nephew. I’m not sure if your cousin is male or female, so I’ll just use “him.”

Windy was unable to recall the name of Temple Grandin, just to get that out of the way.

Sensory issues are a very important thing to understand, and yes, it varies from person to person: I have almost no sense of smell (anything I’ve detected with my nose, I hate, so that may be a good thing most of the time) I’m light-sensitive, and very sensitive to many types of noises and frequencies, far beyond “normal” and also tactile sensory issues, where certain things against my skin can cause nasty sensations, from a horrible chill (velvet, at least when rubbed a certain way when younger) to nausea (sunscreen) to also being unable to sense my body’s movements very well (proprioceptive senses are whacked) and having a heck of a time with the coordination, as a result, including that of speech (spent several years in speech therapy, but things degrade a lot during sensory overload [a term you should look up] so it’s much harder to understand me) and then there’s tastes that I react to violently (toothpastes of many types make me gag/vomit strongly, can’t help it much) so that causes a few practical issues.

1. So, first, try to decipher what the sensory issues are.
2. Don’t punish him for his reality of sensory overload: figure out a way to help him recover from it.
3. Frustration/strong feelings can also add to sensory overload: help him figure out how to communicate, in whatever way he can. It’s entirely possible that speech may be outside his ready grasp due to sensory issues (I have a hard time making sense of speech at times, and it’s worse with sensory overload) and keep in mind, being non-verbal does NOT mean lacking intelligence, it just means not being able to process things well.
4. Teach him proper survival skills like everyone else, as feasible for his level of ability.
5. Work with him for developing coordination and training muscle memory: this is something that tends to be very difficult for those on the autistic spectrum: expect that it’s probable what you consider to be a simple mechanical thing to do will take him a lot longer to master. As an example, I started working with computer keyboards and typing on them on a regular basis at a young age, never had a formal typing class (special education department had other plans, and they clearly could never conceive of me programming computers for a living) and it took me 14 years to go from hunt-and-peck-while-looking to doing touch-typing sustainable over 40 wpm (people watching me have said they’ve seen me do bursts in excess of 80 wpm). For me, handwriting is an nightmare, so I’m very thankful for computers being available. I’m also a little dyslexic, too… Also, involve him in as many larger muscle group physical activities as possible: you can’t build balance and coordination from watching on the sidelines, and it’s especially true with us.
6. There’s something called “executive dysfunction” which also affects motor skills planning, and it helps if you can master the art of writing down plans and figuring out the smaller steps, and just master the art of organizing things.

7. Keep him away from such terrible sites and groups as “Defeat Autism Now,” “Cure Autism Now” and “Autism Speaks” because they only have the goal of eradicating autistics off the face of the earth by any means necessary in a politically-correct sheep’s clothing format. They see autism as a disease and an epidemic, spout horrible things, etc. And don’t do anything good towards those that are actually autistic: their definition of success is an autistic that acts as a neurotypical person, never mind that the autistic person can’t function properly that way, it’s stressful, and bad for self-esteem to live that lie. Ask yourself: would you want any group speaking for you and insisting on you doing things, if you yourself (part of the group they presume to speak for) would never be allowed into their leadership? There’s a reason they don’t want that: they’re afraid of it, and for good reason. Whenever anything of a “Therapy” or “Treatment” is proposed, consider if you’d want it done to you, if you had a choice. Many autistics are forced into such things that they’d never agree to as an adult. Speech therapy and Occupational therapy are good ones: ABA is often a horrible thing, and wouldn’t be allowed on normal kids because it’d be considered cruel.

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Question?: Autism Signs In 3 Year Olds

Donald asks…

Anyone out there have a child with autism?

I am so worried that my 3 year old son has some kind of form of autism. His dr. wants him to be evaluated. Could someone out there tell me what life is like having a child with autism, and how did you first know something was out of the norm with them?

admin answers:

My nephew is autistic, and i believe he was dignosed about the age of 3. He is an extreme case. He is now 5. He still talks very little, and he has a lot of difficulty with change. For example, he has pinkeye right now, and it has been a madhouse here just trying to get eyedrops in his eyes.

He is very bright, however. He is very stubborn, and cries for hours on end if he doesn’t get his way. He is not antisocial, but has a lot of trouble sharing things like toys. He sometimes daydreams so deeply that even loud noises don’t shake him from them. He seems to function rather well most of the time. Just doesn’t deal well with things he’s not used to. He picks up on some things faster than most kids. Like the fact that he no longer calls his mother mommy. He calls her by her first name, because that is what we all call her.

He sees a speech therapist and and an occupational therapist, and it was his OT that originally pointed out signs. He said the first clue was that when he looked at something new, he held it close to his face and wiggled his fingers on it. Sometimes he just waves his fingers in front of his face like he’s holding something we can’t see. Another sign (or so his mother tells me) is that he seems to “talk” in his own language. Seems like babble to me, but he also seems to have his own certain words or noises from certain things.

May not be a lot of help in your own situation, but this is what I have observed.

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Question?: Adhd Test

Ken asks…

How can you tell if an autistic child is also ADHD?

I have an 8 yr old son who is autistic and ADHD also runs in my family. Basically it seems ADHD and some form of the autism spectrum does as my nieces and nephew had one or both and my daughter is ADHD with testing for aspergers goin on. How can I get my son tested for adhd since he is non-communicative?

admin answers:

ADHD is commonly misdiagnosed with people that have Asperger’s Syndrome. The theory isn’t the change of mind but the fact that an obsessive mind causes them to move onto other subjects. One thing will cause another thought and so forth. This is not ADHD but doctors are more interested in prescribing Ritalin since this is an income stream for them. I would tell your school and they can test him or I would call a psychologist that specializes in Autism Spectrum Disorders and they will diagnose.

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Question?: Autism Symptoms 18 Months

Chris asks…

Can my son develop autism after 2 years of age?

My nephew was misdiagnosed for many years. Finally, at age 10 they figured out he had high level autism. They thought he had speech issues and sent him to classes for years. My son, now 18 months old, doesn’t have any of the symptoms that I’ve been reading online. My question is, could he develop autism say after 2 years of age. So far, all I’ve read for signs and symptoms go up to age 2.

-No big smiles or other warm, joyful expressions by six months or thereafter

-No back-and-forth sharing of sounds, smiles, or other facial expressions by nine months or thereafter

-No babbling by 12 months

-No back-and-forth gestures, such as pointing, showing, reaching, or waving by 12 months

-No words by 16 months

-No two-word meaningful phrases (without imitating or repeating) by 24 months

-Any loss of speech or babbling or social skills at any age

So far, he can do all these. Should I not worry?

admin answers:

There are various classifications and degrees of autism. Some are unable to talk conversationally, while others have virtually no ability to speak.

Autism varies widely in its severity and symptoms and may go unrecognized, especially in mildly affected children.

Many people with Autim also have unusual ways of learning, paying attention, or reacting to different sensations. The thinking and learning abilities of people with Autim can vary – from gifted to severely challenged.

Autism begins before the age of 3 and lasts throughout a person’s life. It occurs in all racial, ethnic, and socioeconomic groups and is four times more likely to occur in boys than girls.

Scientists aren’t certain what causes autism, but it’s likely that both genetics and environment play a role.

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Question?: Autism Signs And Symptoms

Sharon asks…

How do you know if a child has Autism?

My three year old nephew is a pretty regular kid. He can tlk but he doessnt understand things and usually ends up repeating you but he is very smart in many ways. My other relatives say it could be autism. How do you knnow for sure?

admin answers:

Most autistic children have a normal to high I.Q. The biggest symptom is the failure to acquire language. If your nephew is not using his language appropriately and just repeating what he hears, it could be something called echolalia, which could be a sign of autism. The best way to know is to take him to the pediatrician, and see if they recommend a screening. They will tell you where to go. You really need a professional to see him because autism can be a spectrum of symptoms and behaviors and some children have it more severely than others.

One thing is for sure, early intervention is the key. So, if you really suspect autism, don’t hesitate to have him diagnosed. The sooner he is diagnosed, the sooner he can receive help. Children who receive early intervention are usually more functional as they grow.

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Question?: Autism Symptoms In 7 Year Old

John asks…

My nephew was just tested for autism?

My sister in law was so upset by the results the Dr. gave. I have 2 questions. The Dr. said my 21/2 year old nephew was only testing at a 7 month old level so she could not diagnose him with Autism, Why? Also what can I do for my sister in law to help ease her mind? They have been through so much already, I honestly think she would be happy to put a medical name to what her son has, but she still gets down and out sometimes. Thanks for your answers!

admin answers:

Well for me, its important that he is getting the treatment he needs regardless of the “official” dx. A lot of therapies used to treat autistic children and to treat children developmentally behind are similar. I agree to get a second opinion. For our son, one of the first indicators he had autism was him testing at a 9 month level in certain areas when he was 2 1/2. However it can take months or even years to get a dx. Try and educate yourself about what specific symptoms he has and work on those. But I completely understand about wanting a dx. It does help ease your mind in a way once you have a name to go with it.

As a side point, to the above poster who saw the 3 docs. The last one who said that autistic children won’t test differently— is completely wrong. In fact that should point more towards autism. Autism affects social interaction so taking language out and she is testing higher is a huge indicator that autism should be more looked into. My son who tested at a 9 month level when language was involved, could test at a school-age level when he was tested with pictures instead of questions. One of the main treatments for autism involves picture boards- because language is such a difficult thing for them. There are entire websites/books/therapies devoted to reaching autistic children with modified means of communication. That doctor needs educated himself.

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Question?: Autism Symptoms In 7 Year Old

Jenny asks…

Why are some autistic kids fixated on pleasuring themselves?

My neighbor is upset because her 18 yo autistic son spends most of his time “touching himself”. She thought it was a phase that he’d go through, but that doesn’t seem to be the case. He’s probably too weird and spastic to get a girlfriend (she hopes he would). What can she do? Should she look for a paid “sex surrogate” or something? Maybe some meds?
@Rebecca: I don’t think calling them “retards” is very nice………

admin answers:

People with autism have a tendency to “stimulate” themselves because their sensory systems are not “wired” the same way as a neurotypical person’s are. Because autism is a spectrum disorder, no two cases of autism are the same – the autistic symptoms my 14-year-old daughter displays may be very different from someone else’s 18-year-old son or 7-year-old nephew, etc., etc. Some individuals with autism are hypersensitive to things like bright lights, loud noises, scratchy fabrics, etc., while others may be impervious to pain or gain pleasure from rubbing a piece of fabric over and over again, etc. The repetitive behavior of spinning, banging heads, rocking, flapping hands, or yes – even touching themselves – brings comfort by calming their nerves that are inflamed by living in a world that is not built to accommodate their particular sensitivities and which they don’t particularly even understand. And let’s face it – having “those parts” touched and fondled is something that is pleasurable to just about ALL 18-year-old boys – NOT just those with autism (although he probably gains more than just sexual arousal from it).

The big question here is how to teach him that there is a time and a place for that type of behavior. Stimming behavior (as those types of repetitive behaviors are called in the autism world) is actually beneficial to helping those with autism to stay calm. Without it, they’d probably be a lot more prone to extreme meltdowns than they already are. So your neighbor just needs to teach her son when and where it’s appropriate. If she wants to say that it’s only OK in his room, with the door shut, at bedtime, then once he learns that’s the rule, he will follow it. The rest of the time, she needs to teach him a “command word” like “hands” or something like that, that means hands need to be out of his pockets, or on the table, or something like that. Every time he goes back to the undesireable behavior, say the command and remove his hands. When he goes the whole day, or the whole morning, or whatever (keep a chart!) without engaging in the inappropriate behavior, he gets a reward. Gradually, you can extend the length of time he has to go without engaging in the problematic behavior in order to achieve the desired reward (maybe having an hour of “alone time” in his room each night, can be the reward for abstaining from it all day!).

This really is not all that unusual of a problem in the autism world. I urge your neighbor to contact an autism support group to get some input from other parents who have faced similar problems. Also, there are lots of books out there that address similar issues, as well: http://www.autism-resources.com/nonfictiontopics/adolescent.html

It’s not the end of the world – she’ll teach him and he’ll come around. It just might take a while, is all. Hope this helps.

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Question?: Autism Signs In Adults

Betty asks…

Can i get tips to learn where/how to more effectively communicate with my autistic nephew?

My nephew has a hard time following direction,and communicating with us. Just from doing online research I’m fairly confident he has some form of autism.However, I can not yet find a site that explains best practices on how to communicate with him and get results. His parents are “blinded” by his differences and use yelling as there way to get a reaction. I hate this and want to find alternative ways to get him to do what is best for everyone . Any tips or direction would be greatly appreciated.

admin answers:

Cannot recommend trying him with makaton and PECS enough,am an adult with severe autism,and communicate most of the time with makaton and PECS.

Makaton is an easier sign language to learn than BSL/ASL types,which has more ‘steps’ per sign,and is a huge language,where makaton signs are based on actions so are easier to learn than random signs that mean nothing to self.
Even babies are taught makaton,to communicate before they can speak.

Ideally he woud be best being taught by a SALT [speech and language therapist] if he can cope with newer people,some of them can do home visits [at least own ones have always done],he does need the correct support in learning it,and the correct signs as well,but family can go on courses for makaton in college-or get the entire self teach collection off the makaton org themselves.
PECS are specific types of pictures,which allows us to communicate visually,or can be used on timelines/PECS or TEAACH boards.
The SALT is where to go as well for this,but there is software to make own that can get,such as board maker,or can just make them with a graphics program such as paint or GIMP [GNU image manipulation program] if want more specific pictures to his needs.
Pyramid [who are the makers of PECS] sell the official folders and other equipment which are strongly built and come in various colours and sizes but some people make there own with folders and strips of velcro.

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Question?: Autism Symptoms Toddler Boys

Sandra asks…

What are some symptoms of Autism that you would find in a 2 yr. old boy?

admin answers:

Lack of eye contact would be the biggest symptom. Lack of other social interaction is also significant.

If he gets a new toy, does he show it off? If something undusual happens, (a strange person comes in the room, an appliance starts making an unusual sound, etc) does he look to the parent or caregiver for signs as to whether this is something to be concerned about?

Lack of speech is something people hear about concerning autism, but maybe as much as 50% of all kids classified with autism (high functioning) have no speech delay. Their speech may be atypical (robotic, no understanding of figures of speech, etc) but no delay. And there are many other poss reasons for speech delay, such as hearing loss. Not that speech is not an issue; just not as big of an issue for a child that young. My super brilliant nephew didn’t speak till he was nearly 3, just because he was spoiled so much he didn’t have to.

Rocking movements & such are clear signs, but toddlers rock themselves a lot anyway. It takes someone with experiance to tell the difference.

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