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Question?: Angry Autistic Child

James asks…

What actions to take when a disabled child is being bullied at school.?

I have a 13 yr. old son with Autism and he is constantly being bullied at school because he is a little different. The school has been notified on three different occasions and nothing seems to be working to prevent this from happening. What can I do?

admin answers:

Go the the district superintendent if the principal isnt doing anything. If that doesn’t work,draw your kid out of school and enroll him in a different school. Bullying an autistic kid is unacceptable! My mom is a life skills teacher and all 4 of her students are my close friends. It makes me angry to hear that someone would bully these kids. I truly hope that this is solved and he doesnt have this happen to him anymore.

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Question?: What Is Autism Video

Steven asks…

What do you think about vaccinating and the link to autism?

I’ve read so many conflicting articles, but had come to the conclusion that it’s better to vaccinate than to not. My 4 month old is ready for his second set, and I am having doubts after watching a heartbreaking video on you-tube.
(I certainly wont base my decision on that video) I just want to know what others think. Have a look, if you like:

admin answers:

There are studys that can prove or disprove everything, just do what you think is right. People can try to influence you all day both ways, but its a desicion you need to make. I have had so many people tell me i was a monster for imunizing my daughter, but i cant help but think how horrible i would feel if she caught one of those diseases, and died. I would rather take my chances with the autism. Im not going to watch the video, but if it really makes you feel bad, look up some of the diseases that you are protecting your baby from, and you will feel better about it. Your a good mom for doing your homework about this. Dont let anyonemake you think your making the wrong choice either way.

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Question?: What Is Autism In Spanish

Carol asks…

My teacher wants to take me out of Spanish class!?

I haven’t been doing too well with my Spanish class, so for next year, my teacher wants to put me in this class called Resource, where you learn organization and study skills. The kids who are put in this class are generaly not very bright, and often get made fun of. I don’t know what to do. I want my teacher to reconsider, but she thinks this is a good desicion. Please, please help me!
My mom wants me to be in Resource, so I don’t think she can help in this one.

admin answers:

Are there any other optional classes you can choose from? If you’re not good at Spanish and are good at technical stuff or maths, maybe you can have a class related to those instead of the Resource one. Maybe Spanish isn’t for you, but that doesn’t mean that you HAVE to go into that Resource class instead.

That’s like when I was in the 8th grade doing Latin and Greek and some guidance councillor told my mum she should send me to special ed. Where I could learn packaging (as in working in a factory packaging batteries or special packages of laundry detergent and stuff like that). I had trouble with Greek because of the different letters but I finished high school (even did 3 more years of Latin without too much trouble still). I’ve now been diagnosed with PDD-NOS (on the Autism Spectrum) so I’m guessing she suspected something back then and that was her reason for saying that, but I think I’ve proven that I have more potential than that. I’m glad my mum stood by me and refused to send me to special ed – I’ve worked in factories especially designed to employ people with a disability (as a temp) but that was not something I could have stuck with indefinitely.

Organization and study skills are useful, but if you don’t feel it’s for you, try and find another option. Arts, woodwork, computer class, extra math – there has to be some other option instead of the Spanish, they shouldn’t be able to force you to choose a certain class (except for the mandatory ones like English and maths obviously).

Good luck!!

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Question?: Angry Autistic Letter

Thomas asks…

DCF and bad therapist not believing diagnosis of Autisum.?

DCF is claiming physical neglect after my high functioning Autistic 9 yr old. Her therapist is angry and dosnt agree with Autistic diagnosis, wants it to be PTSD from her father who left when she was two, she never even brings him up, old news. She told her therapist i tapped her but. I had previously talked with her therapist with my daughter present letting her know that she will make statments like this if she feels she didnt get something she wanted and is mad at me (ex. cant have a cookie before bed, no cartoons before homework) the therapist told her she was calling dcf on her. My daughter came home very anxious and worried. I told her it would be ok, the next day DCF came to her school pulled her from class and put her in the principles office with the doors shut. She wasnt allowed to leave and told her her therapist had sent her about her saying i “spanked” her, she asked her over and over does mom spank you, hit you, hurt you, scare you, ect. My daughter told me she told the worker i tapped her bum and yelled sometimes but was not scared and was finally able to leave, she came home very nervous saying she thought she was in trouble and very scared. I received a letter a week later saying she wanted to meet with me over an allegation of physical abuse the day before i got the letter. I called today (9 days after report was made, 10/17/2013) I told the worker i had nothing to say with out legal councel and i didn’t feel the need to discuss anything with her.

admin answers:

You need to get legal advice. I agree, they went overboard. You mentioned that your daughter is autistic. She sounds like a very high-functioning autistic to be able to hold a conversation with the DCF. Maybe Asperger’s?

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Question?: Autism Signs In Older Children

Steven asks…

If two sons from a father have some form of autism, what is the liklihood of a third son having autism?

My husband has two sons from a previous marriage. One son has sensory intergration dysfunction and the younger son has Aspergers. My husband and I have a son together and I can’t find any information regarding whether or not this should be something we should watch for. His oldest son was diagnosed at age 2, his middle son was diagnosed at age 5. I really would like to know so we can diagnose the problem and get him the proper help if needed.

admin answers:

The incidence of a second child from the same parents also having autism is 4% compared to 1% of the general population…

Is there any other history of autism like signs on either side of the family (the father and his ex) they may help determine if its possibly more related to the father or the mother

I would suspect there is an increased chance of you child having autism–more than 1%, less than 4%

with rates so high its something to look out for even if there is no family history

if the autism components only came froom the father the risk would be 4%

if they only came from the mom, it would be 1%

if they came from both–it would depend on if you have any biologic components

how old is your son now? Diagnosis is the most important early on, it developmental screening. If your son in under 3 (in the US) call the state Early Intervention program and ask for an evaluation of his developmental skills (language, motor, social, etc) they do a better job than pediatricians…the actual eval should take about an hour–a doc does it in a few minutes

you can look up developmental milestones online and see if your son is meeting them…

It is not considered concerning until there at least a 25-33% delay in any area

REFERENCE AND REGULATION appears to be a lot like Greenspan’s DIR and also ‘Natural Environment Teaching’ and ‘Incidental Learning’ used in ABA…i have used what is described as R&R while using DIR//ABA

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Question?: Autism Signs In Infants

Ken asks…

Around what age is autism typically diagnosed?

Can it really be recognized in infants? If so, does the margin for misdiagnosis go up significantly in children so young? Will an autistic child always show signs so early or is it easy to miss until they are well into toddlerhood?
Alexandra – I’m just curious, I’m not concerned about Ari or anything…she *did* make me think of it because she has been engaging in some obsessive behavior lately…she’ll discover something new and do it over and over and over again, but I’m pretty sure that’s normal. It just made me wonder how you determine what’s “normal” and what isn’t when it comes to really young children/babies…their behavior is so all over the place, it just seems to me that it would be nearly impossible to diagnosis behavior abnormalities in children her age and younger.

admin answers:

I have a friend who’s son is the same age as mine (18 months). She’s mentioned in the past her fear that her son has ADHD or Autism. Her son’s first Aunt has autism, not sure what spectrum but she functions at the level of a baby, literally, and she’s a grown woman. She doesn’t talk and can’t be left alone and must be fully cared for.

Me, trying to be a comforting and good friend instantly dismissed her fears and worries. Told her these things could be normal, he’s fine, don’t worry, some kids are just different. And I honestly believed so at the time. I thought she was being a worried mom and I personally never noticed anything especially off about her son. Until I got to spend more and more time with her son and she pointed things out to me and I looked up some info. He does thinks like when he’s excited he makes this strange noise and flaps his arms and slaps his own face over and over and over. He’s delayed verbally and I felt it could be normal and he was just taking his time. All kids develop differently. But the few words he does know he only mimics the words, he does not actually seem to know what they mean, he just says them to say them or when she asks him to. I often feel terrible for her because her child is the most difficult child I’ve ever seen, and she does such a good job at keeping her cool. He has zero attention span and is always on the go, running here and there and then he throws a tantrum when she tries to settle him. But he does not move or be active with a purpose, he just runs around for the sake of moving. And he is always throwing a fit about something but never seems to have the ability to tell her and does not even try to gesture or point or anything. I’ve never in my life seen a child that threw more fits and especially over nothing than her son. I feel really bad for her sometimes and often feel like she should get a reward for how well she copes.

Anyway, I have started to see what she’s talking about when she said she’s worried. And am feeling bad for being so dismissive of her worries when she brought them up to me. And now I don’t know how to tell her I think she has a reason to worry and if he were my son I’ve have him evaluated or keep a close eye on him. I don’t know how to bring it back up, or say “maybe you were right and need to have him checked”. I mean how does one do that to a friend, and worry her even more?

My son does some things and I just think “oh, how very odd and strange”. He even does a few things that would be on the “signs for autism”. Like he sorts and stacks things and loves having things in their proper place and he is very particular and will focus on one thing for quite some time. The other day we were at the park with my friend and her son… There her son was running around like a madman and my son was in the same place for nearly 45 minutes sorting bark in the outdoor play kitchen on the playground. I thought “how strange, he’s on a playground with so many things to climb on and here he stands sorting bark and rocks, how odd”. But that’s the only “sign” he shows and I do not feel he has Autism or feel I have any reason to worry. He’s social, friendly, has age appropriate development and skills and seems to be a normal child to me.

As mothers we worry and are always on the look out for “what ifs”. But we also need to go with what our gut tells us! My gut tells me my son is fine and perfectly healthy. If my gut was telling me “something is very wrong”, I would have him evaluated or at least bring it up to the ped.

As far as an age, I’ve heard of kids not being diagnosed till they were already as old as teens. But the youngest kid I’ve ever heard of being diagnosed was 20 months. But he was extremely delayed and showed all the obvious signs, he even walked on his tip toes. So I feel for some kids it is possible to diagnose it early on, but others may not show any real signs until much later.

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Question?: Rett Syndrome Pictures

Mandy asks…

I need to know more about autism, my little sister who i never see?

Ok, im 16 and my little sister Lexie lives with her real mom , we both have the same dad but different moms. I havent seen her since she was like 3 or 4 and shes now 8. shes very tiny and underdeveloped, but adorable., her mom told me she has learning disabilities and mild autism, i was gonna see if she would let Lexie come stay with me for a week so i can get to know her, but i just wonder how shes like.
any info??

admin answers:

My son has PDD-NOS which is on the Autism Spectrum. The Autism Spectrum is what they call a Spectrum because the severity and symptoms that children have differs greatly. There are five diagnoses that are under the Autism Spectrum Umbrella. These are Autism, PDD-NOS, Asperger’s, childhood disintegrative disorder, and Rett syndrome. PDD-NOS is the most common diagnoses. Asperger’s is the highest functioning of the Autism Spectrum Disorders which are also called Pervasive Development Disorders. Autism is more common in boys than girls, except for Rett Syndrome which affects mostly girls. I have been told by specialists that they have a saying that “If you have seen one child with Autism you have seen one child with Autism”. By that saying they mean that no two children with autism present the same.

Let me tell you a little about my son. When he was a baby I knew something was different. He was my third child so I just knew something was not right. He did not like to be held like my other kids did. He would let me feed him, but look at the ceiling fan while I did instead of into my eyes. When he was done eating he would want to get down. He did not like to be held much. As he got older I noticed that he did not play with toys like my other kids did. He liked to take them apart instead. He was a head banger and rocked side to side alot. When routines changed he always got very irritable and still does. He would play with his toys the same way all the time, and line them up. He began talking on time, but always talked about what he was thinking without holding proper conversations. His voice is monotone all in one high pitch. He does not understand others feelings, how his actions affect others, or facial expressions. He takes everything very seriously and does not understand sarcasm or jokes. He has high anxiety, gets frustrated easily, and has been agressive since he was two. He has sensory processing disorder which is very common with PDD. He has always had sensory issues and hated things too bright, too cold or hot, certain clothing, certain textures, etc. He has problems making friends, and does not play age appropriately.

What has worked for us: My son gets Sensory Integration therapy at his school where he has an IEP and is in a special classroom. He has been in counseling since he was three to help him understand his feelings, others feelings, and ways to better control his emotions. He is on medications to help him control his rages, anger, and sleep issues. I have found that schedules and routines are the most important things for us. I made him a picture schedule that works very well. If you want to email me I can send you more information and even pics of our picture schedule. I have gotten valuable information by getting my son several diagnostic tests such as a speeech evaluation, neuropsycological evaluation, Developmental Behavioral Pediatrician Evaluation, an EEG, an EKG, and even genetics testing. I think that the two most important things to do are to see a Developmental Behavioral Pediatrician because they are the doctors that most specialize in Autism Spectrum Disorders. Also a neuropsych evaluation will help understand how she thinks and how her brain works.

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Question?: Autistic Symptoms

Linda asks…

Is autistic spectrum online tests a valid tool for diagnosis?

Seems to be you can do a quiz to diagnose everything these days. A couple of people have suggested I do it as I have alot of the symptoms, but these symptoms are symptoms for various things such as social phobia, panic attack disorder and OCD. How does a doctor usually go about diagnosing something like this?

admin answers:

Online tests of any kind of not valid diagnostic tools. Autism spectrum disorders are complex and tricky to diagnose. A good test can give you an indication, but not a diagnosis. My psychologist diagnosed me with Asperger’s syndrome based on my self-report, an interview with my mom, my performance on a series of cognitive tests, and her observations of my behavior. The whole process took several hours, mostly because of the tests. If you want to be evaluated, you’ll need to see an autism spectrum disorders specialist. Your GP should be able to suggest someone.

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Question?: Autism Symptoms In Adults

Ruth asks…

Is it common for high functioning autistic adults to live with their parents?

I have high functioning autism / aspbergers / a Pervasive Developmental Disorder. I have lived on my own and my symptoms became worse. I moved in and out with my mom – logically it seemed advantageous to both of us.

I was wondering if it’s common for autistics to be more prone to living at home – I don’t really understand it, it’s a little like a magnet.

I have trouble explaining this to others also.

admin answers:

I think that, as the other poster suggested, it has to do with routine. With your mom, you have an external schedule that determines a lot of your daily activities. If you’re on your own, you’re responsible for everything yourself. And that’s exactly something that is difficult for many autistics – all those little everyday tasks. Even if you can handle them, that’ll still demand so much of your resources that you’ll get into trouble elsewhere.
I’d suggest you check out this website: http://thiswayoflife.org/index.html There is a lot of useful information (look for Executive Dysfunction); and I guess that you can implement some strategies for yourself to get along on your own.

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Question?: Autistic Spectrum

Chris asks…

How can I possibly be able to express myself more easily to the extent where I could become a movie director?

Right now, I’m a junior in high school. Because I have Asperger’s Syndrome, one of the autistic spectrum, I have hard time trying to express myself. Every word or 2, I always need to take a deep breath. My mom told me that movie directors have to express themselves very easily and socialize with others very well. The problem is that I am not good in either of those. Is there any way how can I help myself?

admin answers:

Well your mom is very right. Being a director you have to work with a HUGE team. You need to be well spoken and very social. Not sure about your syndrome and if you can conquer you social skills but good luck.

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