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Question?: Autism Symptoms Toddler Boys

Mark asks…

experiences with Autism?

I am writing a story based on a girl with Autism
for an assignment for english.

I want to get quite close into how people relate to autistic others
So if you know anyone autistic, or are or have an autistic sibling
can you please tell me about your relationship to them
or any habits they may have etcerta etcetera
information from the net can only tell you so much,
but something personal means so much more.
Thankyou guys =D

admin answers:

My 4 y.o. Son has autism. Many days I think, Why him? Why me? But I have to always remind myself that my son’s condition is so much milder than most cases.

He looks typical, he doesn’t drool or flap hands. He speaks quite moderately, can tolerate people whistling, noises, or getting his lined cars messed. That’s why when he has a tantrum over his frustration of failing to deliver the right message, people just stare at him, labelling him as spoiled and then look at the mother who’s not doing a good job as a parent. Or when he suddenly barks at children or attempts to push them, people’s eyebrows are raising.

He’s very visual, sometimes that means a problem. I can’t go to supermarket because he thought our stuff was gone once we put it in the locker. He’s quite rigid sometimes, and we’ve had fights over how he wants to have things done his way.

I saw the symptoms at 15 months old. He ran away from other kids and covered his ears as if in pain while the kids screamed in delight. He wasn’t verbal until almost 3. We got the diagnosis at 3 years and 2 months. Before that, I’d evolved myself into guessing what he wanted, I made every decision for him and didn’t even bother to ask him anything anymore.

Many days I’d spent in tears, my spirit was broken. I hated guessing his inaudible words. I’d poured my love into this boy, and I never got a hug and a kiss from him. “He’s still a toddler, he doesn’t understand yet!” I’d told myself. Then I saw kids younger than him, rushing to their Mommies and chatted about the slides and swings.

Deep down inside, I knew something’s not right. I’d decided to do something about it. His reluctance to socialize drove me to drag him out of the house 3 times a day. We’d go to playgrounds, park, lakeside, hiking, swimming, crossing a bridge, city centre, supermarkets, shops, bus rides, ferry, every place I could think of. Within a month, I noticed a change. He’s not that scared of loud noises, crowds or buses. He’s looking forward to have these daily trips. He still hates people, but it’s a start.

As soon as we got the diagnosis, we jumped straight into the intervention. We’re doing ABA therapy for 9 months now, and it’s like cracking a shell off him and the real personality emerges. He’s charming, funny, a fast learner, eager to help people, and that cute dimpled smile always melts even the coldest heart.

He now has a playdate whom he likes. The tremendous progress he has in such a short time is nothing but miraculous. I’m in awe at how much he wants to learn and know.

My life is much easier than before ABA. His vocabulary skyrocketed and he can express his wants and needs, not specifically, but it eliminates the guessing game. In fact, he likes to play with words and came up with his own joke: “What’s so furni? The funny-ture!” and “Eleven Elephants”

I’m his mother, his therapist, his carer, his friend, his guide, his teacher. I’d do everything for him because he is my world. If there’s a magic spell that can make Autism disappear, I’d do it in a heartbeat. But, in the meantime, I’m content with what we have. My boy is healthy, my boy has Autism. And that gives him extra challenges. But we’ll overcome them. His many hugs and kisses give me strength and hope.

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Question?: Autism Signs In 15 Month Old

Ruth asks…

Why would a toddler star blankly and shake his arms/legs uncontrollably?

My 15 month old son shakes his arms and legs and stares blankly, the shaking can last up to a couple of minutes and the staring longer. He does the shaking worse when he first wakes up from sleeping and when he gets excited. Plus he startles EASILY! Also he has very mottled skin and seems to always have cold hands and feet…what does this mean?

admin answers:

The things you are describing are signs of autism. Take your son to his pediatrician asap. It’s not a seizure. Does he ever flap his hands in front of his face?

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Question?: Autism Symptoms In Teenagers

Laura asks…

Why do I flap my hands all the time?

I am a 23-year-old male and have had a habit of flapping/wringing my hands when excited, or thinking about something that just ‘makes sense’ so to speak. I do it many times throughout the day.

I was assessed as having ADD when I was 14, but any suggestion of Autism or Aspergers was flatly rejected by the team of professionals. I have observed this trait in Autistic kids and teenagers before with a mix of humour and concern.

Can anyone shed some light for me? Thanks.

admin answers:

It could just be that you like flapping your hands. Not every case of hand flapping alone is autism. ADD has a lot of symptoms shared with autism. If you are really worried about this I would say seek a second opinion from a different group of qualified professionals whose expertize is autism spectrum disorders. Go to the appointment armed with all the behavioral and supportive information you can remember from your youth.

If you are hand flapping but have no other socialization issues, co-ordination problems and other challenges associated with autism be glad. You might have a very slight case of autism but, if hand flipping is the only thing that adversely affects your life then feel lucky dude. I got the full deluxe version of autism. I am 49 years old with few friends. I did not manage my antisocial issues well enough to work among people in a paying job till age 41. I live in the community but ever day is a total struggle. I do not do many things as so called normal people do. I hate being touched, I hate eye contact, I collect odd things and have odd interests. Now trust me I love my life even with all its flaws so I am NOT asking for noe do I need anyones pity. I am just sharing a bit of what the full autism experience looks like day to day.

So even if you have autism feel happy that you did not get the deluxe version I got. Even if you have autism so what. You just focus on being the best person you can be, that should be your lifes mission. If you have autism then you will be a successful autistic. If you do not have autism then you will be a very unique normal person. If you have autism symptoms in addition to the hand flapping you felt were overlooked thats another story. However in closing if hand flapping is the only issue that stands out in your life it really should not concern you. Mark the hand flapping down as one of your fascinating quirks and live life.

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Question?: Autism Signs In Older Children

Richard asks…

How did you know your child was Autistic?

Besides being diagnosed by the doctor were there any signs that you noticed? I’m looking for parents who knew around 12 months of age.

admin answers:

I knew my son was autistic by the time he was 12 months old. He was diagnosed at 18 months old by TEACCH ( TEACCH.com ) . We were on the waiting list to be seen by the time he was 12 months old. He has severe autism.

He would not look at me when i called his name.
He would not make eye contact and if you held him in front of your face he would just about roll his eyes up in his head to avoid eye contact.
He didn’t like people. Nobody could touch him but me and that was only because i breastfeed him. I was an object for food, not mama.
He would not play.
He did not talk at all or wave bye bye.
He did not make any of the baby sounds most babies make.
He would flap his hands.
He stood in his playpen for hours and held on to the side and rocked from side to side.
He walked on his tip toes like a ballerina would.
He was a very picky eater.
He would not eat a cheerio that was broken.
He would cover his ears and scream at noises that should not have bothered him.
He never smiled or showed emotions.

These are a few of the weird signs i noticed. He is 22 years old now and there have been so many things he did weird through the years it is hard to remember when he started some of them.

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Question?: Autism Signs In Toddler Girls

Lizzie asks…

do typically developing toddlers flap their hands?

I’m the neighborhood not the parents.

I know of a set of Boy/girl twins who are typically developing toddlers, they’ll be 2 this summer.
When the children get excited about something I see them flapping their hands for a few mintunes.
Is this normal of 2 year old toddlers or is this a cause for corcern for autism?
If this is a sign of autism what are the signs of autism in a toddler?

admin answers:

Hi. My 6 year old stepson is autistic. He did flap his hands. Other signs he showed that we thought were cute but learned later were signs were spinning toys, opening and shutting cabinet doors for hours, speaking very few words calling everything dee dee, doing the same thing over and over, playing alone. When he did finally say a few more words, he could not answer questions. If you asked “whats your name?” he answered “whats your name?” and this could go on for hours no matter what the question was.

However, he did these things all day every day. He didnt really get excited about things… So it may just be some quirky thing they do. I have heard that twins do odd things like that during toddler and early childhood years.

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Question?: Pdd Nos Symptoms

Sandra asks…

If my child tends to ignore his name at times and at times avoids eye contact, does this make him autistic?

My son is 10 months old and he’s very active and enjoys playing as well as with others. But my fiance and I are worried about him ignoring his name at times and a lot of times he has poor eye contact, here and there we notice small things that keep building up to the question, could he be autistic?

admin answers:

We had my middle son at the neurologists office at 9 months for precisely the same concerns. He did get an autistic dx that day, PDD.NOS which is atypical autism. At 9 months my son also did not wave, and he repetitively put things in a bucket and took them out. He is now 3.5yrs., and nobody questions that he is on the spectrum anymore. At 12 months, specialists accurately dx kids on the spectrum 60-80 percent of the time.

It does not mean that your child is definately on the autistic spectrum, only that right now he has a couple of autistic characteristics. Some kids have a quirky period and work themselves out. If it is an autistic spectrum disorder symptoms will become more pronounced, the worst being between 2-3 years old.

I did the following assessment questionaire:

At 9 months my son scored a 49 (over 50 is considered a possible PDD). At his highest between 2-3 he scored an 88 (still in the mild range of 50-100). Now at 3.5 he scores an 82

The spectrum is very broad. We have gone through early intervention which is a free program 0-3 yrs, now he attends the free public preschool for delayed children.

This son always smiled, gave hugs freely, and didn’t flap at all until after 2.

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Autism What is it

So Autism what is it?….

Autism is a developmental disability of the brain; autism is not a form of mental retardation.

The word autism can refer to several similar disabilities, like Autistic Disorder, Aspergers Syndrome, also Atypical Autism (a type of Pervasive Developmental Disorder, not otherwise specified) etc.. There are differences between these conditions, but on the whole they are quite similar.

The word ‘spectrum’ is used because, while all people with autism share three main areas of difficulty, their condition will affect them in very different ways. Some are able to live relatively ‘everyday’ lives; others will require a lifetime of specialist support.

There are three main areas of difficulty which all people with autism share these are referred to as the ‘triad of impairments’. They are:

“Difficulties with communication”;  “Difficulties with social interaction”;   “Difficulties with imagination”. Some autistic people may be affected more by one symptom, while others may be affected more strongly by a different symptom.

People with autism may experience some form of sensory sensitivity. This can occur in one or more of the five senses – sight, sound, smell, touch and taste. A person’s senses are either intensified (hypersensitive) or under-sensitive (hypo-sensitive).

For example, a person with autism may find certain background sounds, like the hum of a fridge for example unbearably loud or distracting, while the rest of us can ignore or block out the noise. To an autistic person the noise can cause anxiety or even physical pain, this can be referred to as an autism anxiety trigger.


People who are hypo-sensitive will often not feel pain or extremes of temperature. Some may rock, spin or flap their hands to stimulate sensation, this is called autistic stimming. An autistic person will use stimming to help with balance and posture or to deal with stress, another autism anxiety trigger

People with sensory sensitivity may also find it harder to use their body awareness system. Which tells us where our bodies are, so for those with reduced body awareness, it can be harder to navigate rooms without walking into objects or bumping into others. They will not appreciate what is an appropriate distance from other people to stand.

This can cause social problems, as the person will be unaware of the need for personal space and may stand very close, making people feel very uncomfortable.

They may also have problems with ‘fine motor’ tasks such as tying shoelaces, or fastening buttons…

Sometime autistic people may have learning disabilities, which can affect all aspects of their life, from going to school, to learning how to wash themselves, clean their teeth, Or how to feed themselves.

The symptoms of autism will vary from person to person each autistic person will have a different degree of learning disability.

Some autistic people will be able to live fairly independently, but may need some support.

While others may require lifelong, specialist support. However, all people with autism can, and do, learn and develop with the right sort of support and resources.

One such form of autism resources is something called autism social stories…These are short pieces of text with appropriate pictures-giving your autistic child, teen or adult specific social cues for everyday living skills.

Like how to wash their teeth, visiting the doctor, eating out. Social skills stories for autistic children and teens, or adults can be printed and used as instructions for all of life’s “normal” and “not so normal” life experiences and actions.

They can be like a best friend to an autistic person helping them feel better in, and cope with, situations they may struggle to understand or deal with – by giving them clear and accurate information about those situations.

Autism social stories are an excellent resource tool which can become a valuable part of an autistic person’s life.

To obtain these valuable autism resources, please visit us at www.autismsocialstories.com
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