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Question?: Treatment For Autism In Babies

Chris asks…

Will Autism Be With A person For Life Will it go away and they will be normal?

OK my little brother is 3 years old and he was diagnosed with autism. He cant speak in sentences and when we tell him to do something its like we are talking another Language. He can say words but most of the time he talks like he is still 1 year old and my baby sister is 1 year old and she is already saying words. When will my little brother actually start speaking in sentences and stop saying nonsense, o and my little cousin who is only 2 is already saying things in sentences and when you ask him to do something he listens.

admin answers:

Autism is for life (beware of those offering quack treatments/cures: do real research)

It is an essentially inherited condition, at core being about having a brain wired significantly differently from the statistically average.
This leads to differences in sensation, perception, and thought-processes, and the expression of that can vary immensely from one individual to another.

” like we are talking another Language.”
To a fair degree you may be. Finding out the best modes of communication and learning for each individual on the autistic spectrum is an important task.
You don’t help a Frenchman to learn English by shouting at him in English. It goes best if you have learned some French first.
Similarly with understanding the autistic perspective on the world while teaching the larger world to the person with autism.

“When will my little brother actually start speaking in sentences[?]”
We vary. There is no rule.
I know of one child who didn’t speak a word till seven, but her first “word” was a complex, perfectly-formed sentence.

I know another who can barely speak, but is incredibly fluent on the computer.
We tend to come with very spiky ability profiles: it can be a major mistake to judge us only by what we are poor at. Or good at.

We do learn, again, in varying degree, especially with the right forms of teaching and support.

Personally I don’t have “normal” as an objective, beyond basic life skills etc.
I can do “social” and “normal” very well, having learnt it the hard way like an academic subject rather than instinctively. It’s there when I want to be, or have to be, social.

But I can’t be bothered with being conventional purely for conformity’s sake.
Why should I be interested in, or join in with, much of what “most people” like, when I am not “most people”?

But then I’m old enough and verbal enough to express that.
Not all of us are.

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Question?: Autistic Behavior

Nancy asks…

What would be the steps to take for someone who wants to work with Autistic children?

I’m 17 and I want to work to work with Autistic children and their family. I have a nephew with Autistic characteristics and a cousin who’s autistic and I want to be in a field where I help autistic children and their families. What type of classes would I have to take in college?

admin answers:

You would take classes in early childhood development, and child psychology to start. A class in behavioral analysis would be valuable as well as behavior management.

Learning about speech therapy and sign language would be great tools to have and increase your value to employers and families in the future as well. Being bilingual English/spanish would really open more doors for you. There are not enough therapists with a good command of both languages, and the Spanish speaking population is often very underserved in this area.

Here’s a great website with a list and description of courses that would be valuable http://www.universalclass.com/i/subjects/specialed.htm

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Question?: Autistic Definition

Carol asks…

How can i help my 2 year old autistic cousin?


I just heard from my aunt that my 2 year old cousin was diagnosed today with autism. I did some research online, and didn’t really find the answer to what I’m looking for. My question is for the ones who’s had experience with autism how can I help? Unfortunately she lives in another country, but I want to help anyway I can.

Thank you for your help.

admin answers:

Hi, I’m a 36 year-old male diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome 5 years ago (unexpectedly) with an autistic older sister and an autistic nephew. I’m not sure if your cousin is male or female, so I’ll just use “him.”

Windy was unable to recall the name of Temple Grandin, just to get that out of the way.

Sensory issues are a very important thing to understand, and yes, it varies from person to person: I have almost no sense of smell (anything I’ve detected with my nose, I hate, so that may be a good thing most of the time) I’m light-sensitive, and very sensitive to many types of noises and frequencies, far beyond “normal” and also tactile sensory issues, where certain things against my skin can cause nasty sensations, from a horrible chill (velvet, at least when rubbed a certain way when younger) to nausea (sunscreen) to also being unable to sense my body’s movements very well (proprioceptive senses are whacked) and having a heck of a time with the coordination, as a result, including that of speech (spent several years in speech therapy, but things degrade a lot during sensory overload [a term you should look up] so it’s much harder to understand me) and then there’s tastes that I react to violently (toothpastes of many types make me gag/vomit strongly, can’t help it much) so that causes a few practical issues.

1. So, first, try to decipher what the sensory issues are.
2. Don’t punish him for his reality of sensory overload: figure out a way to help him recover from it.
3. Frustration/strong feelings can also add to sensory overload: help him figure out how to communicate, in whatever way he can. It’s entirely possible that speech may be outside his ready grasp due to sensory issues (I have a hard time making sense of speech at times, and it’s worse with sensory overload) and keep in mind, being non-verbal does NOT mean lacking intelligence, it just means not being able to process things well.
4. Teach him proper survival skills like everyone else, as feasible for his level of ability.
5. Work with him for developing coordination and training muscle memory: this is something that tends to be very difficult for those on the autistic spectrum: expect that it’s probable what you consider to be a simple mechanical thing to do will take him a lot longer to master. As an example, I started working with computer keyboards and typing on them on a regular basis at a young age, never had a formal typing class (special education department had other plans, and they clearly could never conceive of me programming computers for a living) and it took me 14 years to go from hunt-and-peck-while-looking to doing touch-typing sustainable over 40 wpm (people watching me have said they’ve seen me do bursts in excess of 80 wpm). For me, handwriting is an nightmare, so I’m very thankful for computers being available. I’m also a little dyslexic, too… Also, involve him in as many larger muscle group physical activities as possible: you can’t build balance and coordination from watching on the sidelines, and it’s especially true with us.
6. There’s something called “executive dysfunction” which also affects motor skills planning, and it helps if you can master the art of writing down plans and figuring out the smaller steps, and just master the art of organizing things.

7. Keep him away from such terrible sites and groups as “Defeat Autism Now,” “Cure Autism Now” and “Autism Speaks” because they only have the goal of eradicating autistics off the face of the earth by any means necessary in a politically-correct sheep’s clothing format. They see autism as a disease and an epidemic, spout horrible things, etc. And don’t do anything good towards those that are actually autistic: their definition of success is an autistic that acts as a neurotypical person, never mind that the autistic person can’t function properly that way, it’s stressful, and bad for self-esteem to live that lie. Ask yourself: would you want any group speaking for you and insisting on you doing things, if you yourself (part of the group they presume to speak for) would never be allowed into their leadership? There’s a reason they don’t want that: they’re afraid of it, and for good reason. Whenever anything of a “Therapy” or “Treatment” is proposed, consider if you’d want it done to you, if you had a choice. Many autistics are forced into such things that they’d never agree to as an adult. Speech therapy and Occupational therapy are good ones: ABA is often a horrible thing, and wouldn’t be allowed on normal kids because it’d be considered cruel.

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Question?: Autistic Definition

Ruth asks…

What are some good things to do with autistic kids?

My cuz is autistic and I ned to find done good ways to play with him. can you help me?

admin answers:

There are different forms of autism, and different levels of disability across the whole spectrum. About 40% of all people on the spectrum have intellectual disabilities as well, this is a lot higher for people with Autistic disorder but people with Asperger’s syndrome, by definition, are in the normal range. Some people have no speech, whilst others have minor idiosyncrasies (or no abnormalities). The vast majority have sensory problems, but this varies greatly as well.

You didn’t mention how old he is either, it would obviously be inappropriate to read a Teletubbies book to an intellectually normal, high functioning 15 year old.

If the individual is high functioning, then an age appropriate activity (tailored around an interest) would be fine.

If the individual is low functioning, then you could watch a favorite TV show with them. Even with low functioning individuals, there are some with no communicative abilities or ability to interact with others, if your cousin is this severe then there is little playing you would be able to do with him. With individuals with some speech, a simple, repetitive card game (such as happy families) would be good.

There is a strong possibility that he has a specific interest, reading a book about this (be it horses or lawnmowers) with him would probably be a good way of entertaining him.

Also, try going to the park. Unless he is very severe then this would be good for anyone. Every child likes going to the park and insomnia and ADHD like behaviors are very common amongst individuals on the spectrum, some exercise will help with this a lot.

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Question?: Treatment For Autism In Adults

Mark asks…

Can autistic children lead normal lives as adults?

My 3 y/o cousin was recently diagnosed with autism. He is high functioning, but not enough to be considered Asperger’s. He’s already getting treatment. How likely is it that he will be able to live a normal life as an adult? Like have a job and a family, and his behaviors and delays won’t be as much of a problem?
Lida – Even I know that’s not true. People with autism are PEOPLE, not monsters.

admin answers:

That’s hard to say because it really does depend on how high he is up on the spectrum, but one thing is for sure, it gets better as you get older. I have Asperger’s and now that I’m older no one would ever guess I have it, while when I was a kid I would be freaking out over my shoes not being put on correctly, crying in class, and had almost no friends. But I learned to cope with changes and emotions better and I’m WAY better at talking with people. Everyone is different though, his life may never be totally normal, but that’s not a bad thing, he can still have a fun and interesting life, best thing to do is help him with talking to people and making friends.

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Question?: Autism Signs 2 Year Old

Steven asks…

when did you notice one of your kids had autism?

what were the signs?

We just found out that my daughter’s cousin from her father’s side has autism. And I know they say that you have to wait until children are 2 years old so that they can get diagnosed, but can you see any signs before then?

admin answers:

We first suspected something when are son was around the age of 2, he had some odd behaviors at an earlier age but it really didn’t “stick out” like it did when he was the around the age of 2. Even after some of these odd behaviors became more profound around 2 and he had delays in langauge and some other areas, we thought he was just “slow”, developing at his own pace and would “catch” up, since each person developes at different paces. We had heard of autism but we had absolutely no knowledge about autism itself from the characteristics to the different forms, etc. We seen a show on tv about the characteristics of autism when he was about 2yrs. 8 mos. Give/take a bit, and wouldn’t you know it was like they were describing our son. So we began to learn as much as we could about autism and after doing tons of research, we knew/flet it in our hearts/guts he had autistic disorder. He began his evaluation for autism 2 days after turning 3 and was diagnosed with autistic disorder 1 month later. What we did realize is that during our research and his evaluation he was actually showing some signs at a much earlier age but we had no idea. Had we had actual knowledge about autism and not just heard of it, I honestly believe we would of noticed some of the signs much sooner rather than thinking he was just slow and would catch up and therefore would of had him evaluated much sooner than we did.
I really think it depends on each individual as to when you begin to notice any signs, there are different forms of autism and each form can show signs at various ages, some beginning as young as 5 months, some not until after 2 yrs but before the age of 10 yrs..If you look at this link about the different forms: http://www.autism-society.org/site/PageServer?pagename=about_whatis_PDD you’ll see that each has it’s own specific criteria for a diagnosis and some of the criteria for a diagnosis depends on what age they were when these signs developed, so it is very possible to be diagnosed before 2yrs, around 2 yrs, or later than 2 yrs, again depending on which form of autism they may have. Then there are what they call “related disorders” in which some of these disorders have similar characteristics and some of these disorders share some of the same characteristics of autism (related disorders: http://www.autism-society.org/site/PageServer?pagename=about_whatis_related ). Some of these disorders can co-exist with the autism itself, eg my son has sensory integration disorder which is not on the “related disorders” list, along with his autistic disorder, if you look into the characteristics of both disorders many of the charcteristics/behaviors are shared by both of these disorders. An accurate diagnosis should be based on observation of the individual’s communication, behavior and developmental levels. This is to a list of the basic characteristics of autism: http://www.autism-society.org/site/PageServer?pagename=about_whatis_char
You have to keep in mind that the characteristics affect each person differently and can be anywhere from mild to severe. You can have 2 people with the exact same characteristics at the same severity level and they’ll act completely different from each other. When you look at the forms, for example autistic disorder aka classic autism is considered the severest form while pdd-nos (pervasive developmental disorder-not otherwise specified) aka atypical autism is the mildest form…even if they have the mildest form it still can range from mild to severe.

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Question?: Pdd Autism

Mary asks…

Can anyone tell me how to handle dissapointments and roll with the punches and control myself?

I have PDD Autism and I’m have meltdowns when something dissapontments me and I can’t control myself. Can anyone help me?

admin answers:

I guess that I’m your “cousin”, in a way; you see, I am afflicted with Asperger Syndrome, which is also of the autism family. So let me tell you how I deal with what you are talking about, and maybe it will help.

Disappointments are a part of life, but even more so for autistic people. Understanding my affliction has helped, but what has REALLY helped is, to be blunt, God. Not the God that any religion teaches – because, as much as they may claim to not be, ALL religions are arrogant and self-righteous – but the personal God you can only meet through the pages of the Bible.

For me, my outlet has been to write about what I have found to be true, so I am including a link to my own personal blog site about the Bible. But the truth of the matter is: While no one “religion” is the absolute truth, ALL of them together ARE the truth. Find this, and you will find out how to control yourself when disappointments arise.

Best of luck to you.

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Question?: Schizophrenia In Children

Chris asks…

What should I do or what measures should I take to avoid/control schizophrenia in my children.?

We are three brothers and one sister. One of my brothers (3rd among 4 sibs) is schizophrenic. I am married with one 5 years old daughter and I got married outside my family. One of my paternal uncle and 3 of my cousins from my three different paternal uncles also got schizophrenia but one of the cousin is doing fine now after treatment. But my brother has no chance of healing though he is getting treatment. My parents were not related in anyway before marriage.

admin answers:

Contrary to what some of the answers here have said THERE IS NO CONCLUSIVE EVIDENCE THAT SCHIZOPHRENIA IS INHERITED! Some believe there is an inherited predisposition to getting it but I doubt it. Schizophrenia is not a single disorder but a spectrum of disorders. SO STOP WORRYING ABOUT IT and take steps to raise your children in a family atmosphere of Tender Loving Care (TLC), which will prevent a whole lot of trouble for them.

Good luck, good mental health, peace and love!

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Question?: Treatment For Autism In Adults

Sandy asks…

Can autistic children lead normal lives as adults?

My 3 y/o cousin was recently diagnosed with autism. He is high functioning, but not enough to be considered Asperger’s. He’s already getting treatment. How likely is it that he will be able to live a normal life as an adult? Like have a job and a family, and his behaviors and delays won’t be as much of a problem?

admin answers:

As an adult, he should be able to function absolutely fine. He may need to go to a doctor once every while, but other than that, it shouldn’t affect him getting a job or getting married in any way.

The only area he may find difficulty in is in public school and making friends. Fortunately though, it normally doesn’t bother autistic children, so it shouldn’t be an area of concern.Although He will probably go to a school specially for kids with autism anyways, so he should be fine with school.

So he will almost definitely be absolutely fine with all aspects of life, and the fact he is getting treatment early makes it even better, and it will have even less of an affect.

I hope the best for you and your family 🙂

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