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Question?: Angry Autistic Child

James asks…

What actions to take when a disabled child is being bullied at school.?

I have a 13 yr. old son with Autism and he is constantly being bullied at school because he is a little different. The school has been notified on three different occasions and nothing seems to be working to prevent this from happening. What can I do?

admin answers:

Go the the district superintendent if the principal isnt doing anything. If that doesn’t work,draw your kid out of school and enroll him in a different school. Bullying an autistic kid is unacceptable! My mom is a life skills teacher and all 4 of her students are my close friends. It makes me angry to hear that someone would bully these kids. I truly hope that this is solved and he doesnt have this happen to him anymore.

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Question?: Autistic Behavior

Mary asks…

How young can you first notice the social differences of a autistic child?

I have heard that autism can’t be diagnosed until a child is about 1 year or older. I am wondering if autistic children behave the same way as non-autistic children as a babies (less than 1 year old)? I also know that autism affects a child’s ability to interact/communicate/socialize with others. I’m wondering if a happy baby who smiles ALL THE TIME and loves people could develop autism or if most autistic kids were more withdrawn as a baby?

admin answers:

Can’t speak for all autistic children here, but my son from a very early age seemed to absorb everything going on around him; sometimes looked at people and sometimes didn’t; showed little receptive/expressive/interactive responses to the attention of others and all this was obvious from around the age approx. 3 months (possibly earlier, when the ‘average’ baby can be seen to respond in an interactive manner to the attention of others).
He was formally diagnosed with autism at the age of two.
But I knew from the above mentioned very early age that he was a little different to my other children. (Adored him no less)
Some close friends and family even stated that he seemed to be a wise soul who seemed he had “been here before”.
If my son had displayed an avid interaction with those around him (and me) as a baby, I may never have suspected the possibility of autism.
Having many family members and friends on the spectrum, I have observed their varying degrees of interaction with others (particularly the ones I have known as babies), but the one-on-one interaction before the age of 1 was generally minimal.
Some children travel through early baby-hood seeming to respond ‘normally’, only to appear to ‘change’ to ‘silent-mode’ and present with autistic behaviours after e.g. Vaccinations.
Personally, I don’t believe in the vaccination ‘connection’.
Autism, I believe, is genetic by nature.

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Question?: Autism Symptoms Toddler Boys

William asks…

Would it be ethical to shrink me to a size of a 4 year old because of my Autism? Emotionally/socially I am 4.

I suffer from Autism, I am on the lower edge of high functioning Autism.
I am CHRONOLOGICALLY 32 years old, but emotionally and socially, I’m about at the level of 4 1/2 – 5 year old. My interests are like a 4 year old…I love Teletubbies, Care Bears, Barney, Sesame Street, etc. I even still have a pacifier, I have been using it for decades. I seriiously cannot help being like a 4 year old, it’s not like I purposely act like a 4 1/2 year old. If I was changed physically to a 4 year old, at least people would stop staring at me when I went to the store or supermarket and played with baby toys or candy. I’m not actually conscious they are staring at me, but my parents tell me. I feel my parents would respect me more too if I was the size of a 4 year old. Like as in some sort of proportionate dwarf, but everyone would think I was this little 4 year old kid who could speak, and leave me alone. I have many other child-related interests. I really can’t help being this way. It’s not as if I’m some sort of adult baby or something, I have no interest in infantilism, I don’t wear diapers, I’m potty trained and I certainly don’t find wetting a diaper sexual or anything like some of these strange ABs….I mean, they can control when they are being like a child, but I don’t have that ability. I’m so sick of being a child trapped into an adult’s body. A lot of people have told me that I’m like a 4 1/2 year old, and they’ve known me for 14-15 years (such as old instructors in college, close friends, relatives, etc).

Maybe the thing I want to ask really is would it be ethical to shrink me to the size of a 4 year old if a scientist was able to do so?? I read on some other question and answer on Yahoo that scientists have already shrunk smaller animals. So would it be ethical in my case?? And would you agree with my idea? I have several autistic friends and Asperger Syndrome friends who know me very well, and they say it would be ethical if something like that existed. What do you think?

I can’t hold a job because of my autism (I have a BA degree in Geography, but my autism prevents me from holding a job). I have ADHD and moderate to high functioning Autism. It is very frustrating. People have no idea of how frustrating living with autism is. I think if I looked like a 4 year old, at least I would have the physical age to match my emotional/social age. Of course, if I looked like a 4 year old boy, I would be sure to wear boutique longalls like Kelly’s Kids and Mulberry Street, and t-strap buckle shoes/English sandals (little boys look adorable wearing that stuff down South in South Carolina and Georgia). I’d be the most adorable toddler you ever saw. Of course, being 4 years old wouldn’t change that much about me, except I’d be smaller. I would still be potty trained, I would still able to speak, and to be able to listen to oldies/soft rock music. In fact, I listened to that type of music when I was really chronologically 4 years old.

What do you think?? PLEASE NO negative feedbacks. I’m being dead erious and I have a disability that is not fun. If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it.

Preston from California

admin answers:

We all are who we are and can not change that, emotionally and socially some of us on the autism spoectrum may be a little naive in some peoples eyes.. But just like those not on the autism spectrum we also are all unique individuals.

Feeling at odds with the world and wanting to change is not the answer, society itself needs a kick up the %$#@, if only we could eliminate the ignorance of others, having to deal with prejudgment, stigma far to often no wonder some of us may feel like shrinking!

The so called “normal world” often see us as outsiders and keep us at arm’s length. Aspergers is just the way I’m wired; we are all different and have different symptoms Aspies, Auties and NT’s etc.. The world is made up of many diversities, the key is acceptance of who you are… As putting on a mask daily or acting apart to fit in can be exhausting..

“Being diagnosed for any difference, it’s not about the label
no one need know, it’s about understanding – true identity.”

Below is just a small part of my journet, read more on link, hopefully it May help you on understand that little bit more –
Making Sense – last update July 2008:

Having Aspergers is just part of who I am. I’ve always been different, but now there’s a name for it, I accept it. I think self-acceptance and acceptance of others are key to being accepted in general. Embracing my differences not only has allowed for a greater understanding of me, but also others in the world, it has enriched my life.

I cannot help but be fascinated about my AS, with Aspergers came the real me (true identity) and yes, I have become a little obsessed with finding, learning more. In my search I have come to the conclusion that we cannot find answers in text books and the professionals do not have all the answers, but the aspie community has welcomed me, and I have found every answer there.

I no longer feel the need to apologize for my differences, or make excuses. I also feel that NTs need to really start listening and gain better understanding from those of us on the autism spectrum ourselves… Everyone must know someone on the autism spectrum, not sure every knows or understands yet! It’s not a Aspie / NT thing, but as yet we just do not quite merge into society as maybe we should, still at times I myself feel on the edge of society in general. It can be so frustrating when whatever you seem to do or say, blank response – crossed wires…

I continue to hear:
“But I did explain to my partner, and they told me they understood” so why is it they still continue to try and fix/change me, why cannot others understand our differences, instead of wanting to force their way onto us! – AWARENESS, AWARENESS, AWARENESS until that really happens on a big scale things will never change…. Working on that and know many others are…..

I continual to be amazed by my depth of difference, the biggest problem I seem to have is the stereo typing by the “norm” in general, of how we should be. Maybe it’s our time to lead the way, as we do seem to have a natural connection, a sense with the world around us and are often happier living in a real environment rather than an artificial one. Maybe in the future we will play a much bigger part, the world is changing and I cannot help but wonder…..

My journey like everyones will never be complete, as we all continue to learn and grow… ASPLANET – http://asplanet.info/index.php

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Management of Asperger Syndrome in Children

In treating a child with Asperger Syndrome, it is very helpful if all members of the family are involved, also their teachers, close friends, and anyone who cares for them.

They must also inform health providers who are caring for their child what others are doing in the treatment. With the help and care given in a child, he or she may experience like a normal children.

Therapy that focuses in social skills training is very important to improve the problem in social interaction. The effective way of training is by training by groups. In social skills training, patients are given smaller and simple tasks that are appropriate to their age and they can easily remember. Various methods are used teach training, like direct instructions, role playing, modeling, and support of positive interactions. Allow your child with Asperger do this.

Training includes communication therapy where it teaches about conversational skills. It is helpful in improving nonverbal communication and social awareness. Parents must provide clear explanations to their children of why there are having unusual behaviors or mannerism, and they must teach rules for those odd behaviors. Parents should encourage their child to learn how to interact with other people, what to do when spoken to, and explain its importance, start by greeting strangers, introducing themselves, starting and maintaining conversation, joining conversation, and ending conversation.

Treatment of Asperger Syndrome is primarily non-pharmacological and essentially supportive.

A cooperative play skills which includes: initiating play games in a group, joining in game, and dealing of losing or winning in a game, and ending a game activity. Parents should encourage their child to participant to every game activity. Another is friendship management skill which includes: dealing with peer pressure, calling someone on the telephone, and answering telephone calls.

Another useful therapy for children with Asperger is the emotional management skills.

Parents must help their child understand others’ feelings by role-playing and watching and discussing human behaviors seen in movies or on television. Provide a model for their child by telling him or her about their own feelings and reactions to those feelings. It teaches Asperger children to recognize and understand thoughts and feelings of themselves and others. It composed of self-regulation where the tasks are recognizing feelings, keeping calm, problem solving, understanding and dealing anger. Next is empathy, like cheering up a friend when he or she is upset. Last is the managing conflictual situation or conflict management, where task are accepting criticism, dealing with rejection or left out, and having a respectful attitude.

Overall, parents play a large role in managing children with Asperger syndrome. Treatment for these children makes every effort to improve the abilities of children to interact with other people and to function effectively.

Dr. John E. Neyman, Jr.Christian CounselorDr. John has reared 3 children, Philip, Laura, and Matthew. Dr. John has been teaching families for the last 30 years. He is a family coach that specializes in parenting. Dr. John’s motto is “Empowering parents to transform their homes.” Dr. John was a pastor for 25 years.Dr. John has been serving as a Counselor/therapist for 30 years. He is currently a Behavior Specialist Consultant and Mobile Therapist in Western PA. Dr. John also is the director /Owner of the Renewed Life Counseling Center. Dr. John is a bestselling author entitled Wake up Live the Life You love: Success and Wake up Live the Life You Love: Freedom.Dr. John has developed a strategy that parents are able to use immediately, and effectively. It is entitled Power moments with Your Children. It takes less than 1 minute to put a strategy into place. Dr. John holds degrees from Liberty University and Rochville University.Dr. John has a passion to teach principles that transforms lives. He has spoken to audiences from 4 to 4 thousand. Dr. John’s teachings are practical, pointed, and powerful.
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Asperger Syndrome – is There a Cure for Asperger?

If your child or any child that you know has little social and communication skills, shows some repetitive behavior and/or becomes overly involved in one topic, that child may have Asperger Syndrome. Aspergers is in the Autism Spectrum Disorder class of disorders and is a type of high functioning autism. This means that someone with Asperger’s will generally have better language skills than someone with full autism and will generally be able to live a more normal life.

Having said that, Aspergers still can be quite hard to deal with and some lifestyle changes will need to be made to work around your Aspergers child. There is no cure for Aspergers but there are treatments and strategies available to make life easier for an Aspergers person.

A child with Asperger Syndrome will often become quite obsessive in a single topic or object and will learn everything they can about it. You may find that this topic that they are involved in is all that they will want to talk about and they may continue to constantly talk about it even though others are really not interested in it.

One of the biggest characteristics of Asperger Syndrome is the lack of communication and social skills. Asperger children will find it hard to interact with other children of their own age and will find it difficult to make friends and maintain friendships. Sometimes they may make close friends and will maintain that friendship for a period of time and then all of a sudden that friend will no longer want to be friends with them. The child will probably have no idea why this person no longer wants to be their friend and this is a pattern that may continue throughout their lives.

A child with Aspergers will usually sit back and watch children play and will be hesitant to join in until they are actually invited. It isn’t that they don’t want friends because they really do, but they just aren’t sure how to communicate properly. Because of this problem with communicating with children of their own age, Asperger children will often prefer to play with children younger than them or even to hold a conversation with adults.

Life can be quite difficult for a child with Asperger Syndrome and because they are usually of above average intelligence they do know that they are different but they just don’t know how to change that. This can be very stressful and many children may end up with anxiety disorders or even depression.

There are strategies and techniques that can be used to help teach your child the social skills that they lack and this will be a huge benefit for them throughout their life to learn these skills. If you have a child with Asperger Syndrome I highly recommend that you learn as much as you can about the disorder and teach them the social skills they need to give them a big head start to leading a reasonably normal life.

I am a mother of an child with Aspergers and have needed to learn strategies and techniques in order for my child to live a reasonably normal and happy life. To find out more about Aspergers Syndrome visit Essential Guide To Aspergers
Or visit our website Our Exceptional Kids and get a free copy of our ebook talking about Aspergers, Autism and ADHD.
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